EXCEPT ME! and I feel horrible and disgusted with myself.
I literally don't have a clue what to do next. My daughter has just returned home after a three day stint on the run. She is only 15 years old and dreams of become a stripper/ groupie in Vegas witch she attempted to run away to already a few months ago. The police intercepted thank god or she would probably be dead by now. daughter has been in Juvenile hall 5 separate occasions in this last year from conduct, probabtion violations, assalt on her grandmother (whom I could almost see throwing in a bush myself) (im just saying the lady is MEAN) for trying to take her cell phone as punishment and now the latest. She has a warrant out for her in the state we just left for a home robbery with friends which all just caught up to her.
daughter finds a way to stay grounded or in trouble daily by way of stealing constantly and lying in for frequently. Not a word she utter is of complete truth but some from of manipulations. Our entire family has changed their phone numbers so she cannot call them having already all been used, disrepected and then disgarded.
Three days ago she crushed my hand to darn near deformation trying to pry her cell phone charger out of my hand. She has called me the C word ( and I mean I never...) and is making my remarriage a divorce, something I know she would like since she hates her new step-mother, Someone who I can find no fault with thus far but has now run out of patience and they completely stay away from each other.
I want to run far far away which is silly but I cannot take any more. I feel like a crazy person crying all day trying to figure out what new approach I can take. Be more stern....less stern....talk to her like a friend....Keep the authoritative approach.
Her therapist says to me.... "good luck" shes a tough cooke and put her on abilify on her first visit with the Psyc which she refuses to take and makes her hostility come in waves instead of one continuous stagnant tornado.
I dont know what else to do and Im so glad I could vent here, Im accepting any and all advice.
Im starting to dislike my child and that just dosent feel right, please what can i do to get through to her?????
I feel your pain everyday. I adopted a 12 year old who 15 almost 16 now. It has been the worst experience of my life. She has a lot of the same behaviors your daughter has. She just recently got off probabtion for molesting my children. We called the police when we found out what she had ben doing to my 2 daughters. They told us because she is a sexual offender they couldn't take her to the recieving home. They wanted to take our other 4 children out of our home to the recieving home to keep them safe. They and we are already traumatized vicitims. My husband had to move out with her until the courts allowed her back in her our home. She has no conscience about what she did. We have bveen to so much conselling and court hearing with her and had probation officers in our house at their whim. We had no rights. We couldn't afford to put her in a group home. We still can't. If we have her write sentences she calls CPS and tells thiem we lock her in her room for 10 days not letting her out for anything and that we made her write 50000 sentences. All untrue and was found unfounded. She has written maybe 200 of the sentences she has been told to write as punishment for bad behavior. This is over 4 years. She will NOT do anything we tell her. She does no chores. She does not do her homework. Nothing works on her. She threatens us with false CPS reports. our lives are hell. We never know what she is going to do to us next. I want to run away with my kids to escape. I have constant diarrhea from all the stress. I don't like her around my kids. We have surviellence cameras installed around our house for our safety., We can never be alone with her because we don't know what she will say we do to her We need witnesses that we don't do anything to her. She told her thrapist i picked her up by her hair and threw her acros the room after I slapped her face. None of it happened. Thank /god I had a boken leg and ruptured tendon and couldnt even weight bear when she said I did it. Another unfounded CPS call. That is how she threatens us. She makes false CPS calls. I KNOW YOUR PAIN.. I FEEL YOUR PAIN. I have a 2 year count down and she is out. Thank you jesus. I hope I don't stroke out first.