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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 516615" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. Sorry I popped in so late, but I was wondering if this child was exposed to any sort of substance while her birthmother was pregnant. That can cause</p><p>all sorts of behavior and/or learning problems. We have one adopted child who came to us at two and tested positive for cocaine when he was born. He has a form of autism...he is now eighteen. Your son reminds me of a child who could have been exposed to alcohol, which could put him on the fetal alcohol spectrum. Those k ids simply can not (not will not, but can not) learn right from wrong and need constant monitoring to stay out of trouble. I agree that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) could be on the table here. He has had many changes in his life at a very early age and that does affect our little ones. It could, and probably is, several things. Very rarely is there one issue going on with our precious babies. They usually are hard to diagnose too.</p><p></p><p>Another thing to consider is, the biological parents. Do you know anything about them? One thing I learned, which I found interesting and true, is that our adopted kids are usually/often (take your pick) more like their biological parents, even if they have never laid eyes on them, then they are like us. Their impulsivity, likes/dislikes, behaviors are often very much like their birthparents. Of course, how we raise them affects them too, but people who have seen their kids reunite almost all come back shaking their heads at how much they are like their biological parents. This can be good or bad, depending on what the bio. parents are like. It can mean a predisposition to mental illness. </p><p></p><p>Can you give us more background so we can make better suggestions? If you are going to have her evaluated, I highly recommend a neuropsychologist. They spend hours with your child (6-10) and test in every category of function and also behavior. They tend to catch things that other professionals often miss.</p><p></p><p>I hope this was helpful. I am on the run back to work so I apologize if I am being repetitious. Please keep in touch!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 516615, member: 1550"] Hi there. Sorry I popped in so late, but I was wondering if this child was exposed to any sort of substance while her birthmother was pregnant. That can cause all sorts of behavior and/or learning problems. We have one adopted child who came to us at two and tested positive for cocaine when he was born. He has a form of autism...he is now eighteen. Your son reminds me of a child who could have been exposed to alcohol, which could put him on the fetal alcohol spectrum. Those k ids simply can not (not will not, but can not) learn right from wrong and need constant monitoring to stay out of trouble. I agree that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) could be on the table here. He has had many changes in his life at a very early age and that does affect our little ones. It could, and probably is, several things. Very rarely is there one issue going on with our precious babies. They usually are hard to diagnose too. Another thing to consider is, the biological parents. Do you know anything about them? One thing I learned, which I found interesting and true, is that our adopted kids are usually/often (take your pick) more like their biological parents, even if they have never laid eyes on them, then they are like us. Their impulsivity, likes/dislikes, behaviors are often very much like their birthparents. Of course, how we raise them affects them too, but people who have seen their kids reunite almost all come back shaking their heads at how much they are like their biological parents. This can be good or bad, depending on what the bio. parents are like. It can mean a predisposition to mental illness. Can you give us more background so we can make better suggestions? If you are going to have her evaluated, I highly recommend a neuropsychologist. They spend hours with your child (6-10) and test in every category of function and also behavior. They tend to catch things that other professionals often miss. I hope this was helpful. I am on the run back to work so I apologize if I am being repetitious. Please keep in touch! [/QUOTE]
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