Hi justbritt! I copied your post here from another thread so members could welcome you and respond to your concerns: My 14 year old daughter was diagnosed with Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD) ( Central Auditory Processing Disorder) in third grade, she is now 14 and fits every aspect of the Obediant Defiant Disorder spectrum. I just read an excellent book called The Defiant Child: A Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder. It was the best book I ever read, No technical terms just right to the point with lots of wake up calls. I have an appointment for her with a behavorial specialist and will be asking for a referral for a familt therapist. Her behavoir has caused complete chaos in our home and as of now, my husband and I might as well be living in two different worlds. Please share your stories and tell me how to safe a marriage in this situation. I feel like my husband can not stand his own daughter and refuses to understand that it will take a lot of work. Welcome to the board! I hope you find a lot of support here.