Well....he's been admitted inpatient.

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by ShakespeareMamaX, Nov 14, 2007.

  1. ShakespeareMamaX

    ShakespeareMamaX New Member

    This is the day

    That the Lord has made

    We shall rejoice

    And be glad in it

    That's the one song I actually remember from bible school and it's ringing in my brain at the moment.

    I woke up.
    I went to my difficult child's school to drop off a pill bottle.
    I went to work.
    I called the school to ask a fundraiser question.
    I'm told the principal needs to speak with me.
    I talk to him and my son.
    I cry.
    I decide to call the school back and tell them I'm getting my child.
    I go to the school.
    The secretary calls his class.
    difficult child answers.
    difficult child is alone in the class.
    Secretary and I walk to class and find out someone let him go to the nurse to get his 3:00 pill (at 11:00), unescorted.
    Nurse tells difficult child it's not time and to "go back to class".
    difficult child went to his class, I guess (good listening), and stayed there for God knows how long.
    difficult child gets "yelled" at by everyone that sees him (secretary, psychologist) and there was talk of how he needs to be "reprimanded".
    I took my difficult child and left.
    We drove to the children's hospital ER.
    I gave them the skinny.
    The doctor was appalled at all the neglect on everybody's (psychologist, psychiatrist, school, pediatrician) part, not taking notice to any of my son's sensory issues and whatnot.
    Hospital decided inpatient was the best.
    difficult child is happy.
    Mom is happy and sad.
    Mom is more happy.


    This is the day

    That the Lord has made

    We shall rejoice

    And be glad in it
  2. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    So? Where was his class? Why was he there alone??

    I see in your sig that you think a new evaluation is needed. I'd push for it while he's inpatient if you can get it.

    I know it's hard. But I hope this turns out to be a really good thing for him.

  3. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    Good luck with this.

  4. ShakespeareMamaX

    ShakespeareMamaX New Member

    Oh, they're most def doing a new evaluation.

    And I forgot to mention, his class was at recess.

    C'mon, now...what kid deliberately evades recess to go to their classroom?

    I'm trying to stay strong with this. I just keep thinking he's going to wake up from a nightmare tonight and be scared to death of where he is.

    I know it's the best for him...it's just so hard, ya know?

    I never thought I'd get to the point of not being able to care for my child like he needed.

    I miss him... :crying:
  5. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    I know you're lonesome. But this is short term and they're doing an evaluation and it will help. You are helping him. You ARE THERE for him in your heart. And he is with you.
    Take care.
  6. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    You were warrior mom when you needed to be, when you pulled him out of that school.

    You can and will me warrior mom when your son needs you while he is in inpatient.

    Good will come out of this. You and your boy are in my prayers.
  7. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    been there done that............
    I think you will get so much help at the phosph. Hopefully they will be able to answer all the questions that you have had - do an evaluation - and recommend the best medications.
    I know it is hard, and you miss him, but at least now you know he is on the right track to getting help.
  8. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

  9. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    I hope this makes a difference for your difficult child
  10. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I know this is hard but he is where he needs to be right now. Hopefully he will get all the help he needs. Both times my difficult child was in the hospital. he was very comfortable and seemed very happy. He thrived on the level of structure that was able to be provided. I hope your difficult child has a good experience. I am so sorry the school has not done their part. Hugs.
  11. goldenguru

    goldenguru New Member

    If your child were physically sick and you couldn't provide him with the medical care he needed - what would you do? You would admit him to the hospital of course. The same holds true with emotional/mental illness.

    I too know how hard this is. I had to admit my daughter to a psychiatric facility twice.

    I don't know what to tell you about your school. Has he had an IEP? What type of school does he attend? Are they capable of dealing with his 'special needs'?

    Hugs. I hope you get some answers today.
  12. ShakespeareMamaX

    ShakespeareMamaX New Member

    I have the PPT with the school, today.

    Wish me luck.
  13. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Hugs....I'm sure this is tough on you and him, but this is good. Sorry that you are hurting for your son.
  14. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    Sometimes the things that we need to do for our children to help them hurt us (our souls).

    If you aren't getting some kind of counseling at this point = I'd recommend it. This is a tough road and not one that should be walked alone. been there done that - writing the book. Know what I mean??

    Hugs for you both
  15. slsh

    slsh member since 1999

    Sending major good thoughts for the PPT today.

    The important thing is that difficult child is going to be appropriately evaluated and hopefully hospital staff will be able to come up with an effective treatment plan that will include an appropriate educational plan as well.

    I'm absolutely livid for you and your boy that school staff were so completely careless with him. Unbelievable...

    A gentle hug for you - I know this is difficult but I hope it will lead to much better times for difficult child and your family.

    Hang in there!