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candiecotton
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HI first of all i am going to apologize , i do not use caps or periods most of the time & at times my spelling is insane. I usually will be posting from my laptop & the keys stick so as i said in advance im sorry if this gets on anyones nerves.
So let me tell you about myself, I'm susan married 13 years ( in july) to shawn , we have 6 children between us & ( he has one before marriage i had 3,) my 3 older children ( please dont judge) do not have the same bio father . but anyway my 15 ( on sat) G has after 7-8 years of us telling the school,her dr,her councelor has just been diag with ODD & possibly adhd, after the psychologist reading her file that has been put together through 3 different schools 2 councelors & her group home ( she is not able to live hiome because at times she cn be a danger to herself & us ,i will explain that later.) she is not happy with this diagnosis but now i lknow i am not crazy.
G has been in care since august when an inexpirenced childrens aid worker came in & her room was a huge mess , she was in a foster home along with her 2 younger siblings ( her older brother being over 16 it didnt impact him) at the foster home she was placed in she was doing the same things she did at home & was asked to leave & she was placed in a group home in november.she is home every day but sunday night & monday basically she is in care because she needs the option for when she is a danger to herself or others to be able to be removed from the home without consequences. & the people in the group home are better trained to help her when shes in one of her "moods".She has had to go back early a few sundays .
Her brother & sister are coming home tomorrow & she is not ,that has caused a bit of moodyness in her . but now we know that shes ODD we can start to learn how to help her as well .
Her behavior ranges from extreme mood swings to urniating in bags & putting it out her window to having bowel movements in buckets in her room , a few weeks ago she set the keys to my laptop on fire melting several keys . this evening she poured scented oil from a diffuser on the lap desk we have for the laptop . of course she denied it but i know she did it
most times when we talk to her we dont know what mood were going to get with her we are walking on egg shells most of the time to avoid a tirade .
we were advised by the socal worker at the group home to send her back when she has an episode where shes destroying things & yelling & screaming but my husband doesnt want too he thinks i should handle it as her mom I am at the point where im going to drop her off at her bio fathers house & say here ive had her for 15 you can have her till shes 18 ... but i would never do that of course .
Im hoping im in the right place i am lost here & drowning fast i dont know where to turn because everything i do will be critizised by childrens aid & i really dont know where to turn
So let me tell you about myself, I'm susan married 13 years ( in july) to shawn , we have 6 children between us & ( he has one before marriage i had 3,) my 3 older children ( please dont judge) do not have the same bio father . but anyway my 15 ( on sat) G has after 7-8 years of us telling the school,her dr,her councelor has just been diag with ODD & possibly adhd, after the psychologist reading her file that has been put together through 3 different schools 2 councelors & her group home ( she is not able to live hiome because at times she cn be a danger to herself & us ,i will explain that later.) she is not happy with this diagnosis but now i lknow i am not crazy.
G has been in care since august when an inexpirenced childrens aid worker came in & her room was a huge mess , she was in a foster home along with her 2 younger siblings ( her older brother being over 16 it didnt impact him) at the foster home she was placed in she was doing the same things she did at home & was asked to leave & she was placed in a group home in november.she is home every day but sunday night & monday basically she is in care because she needs the option for when she is a danger to herself or others to be able to be removed from the home without consequences. & the people in the group home are better trained to help her when shes in one of her "moods".She has had to go back early a few sundays .
Her brother & sister are coming home tomorrow & she is not ,that has caused a bit of moodyness in her . but now we know that shes ODD we can start to learn how to help her as well .
Her behavior ranges from extreme mood swings to urniating in bags & putting it out her window to having bowel movements in buckets in her room , a few weeks ago she set the keys to my laptop on fire melting several keys . this evening she poured scented oil from a diffuser on the lap desk we have for the laptop . of course she denied it but i know she did it
most times when we talk to her we dont know what mood were going to get with her we are walking on egg shells most of the time to avoid a tirade .
we were advised by the socal worker at the group home to send her back when she has an episode where shes destroying things & yelling & screaming but my husband doesnt want too he thinks i should handle it as her mom I am at the point where im going to drop her off at her bio fathers house & say here ive had her for 15 you can have her till shes 18 ... but i would never do that of course .
Im hoping im in the right place i am lost here & drowning fast i dont know where to turn because everything i do will be critizised by childrens aid & i really dont know where to turn