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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 281065" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Daisy, </p><p> </p><p>You know I think a lot of times we tell our kids you can't to keep them from being hurt further. Often in the past years I've had to stop myself from saying something like that, and even if I don't let the words come out of my mouth the "you can't" aura is there and Dude is able to pick up on that quicker than anything else. Which is sad because if he could pick up on my "OH NO" aura regarding his behaviors he could have saved us both a lot of heart ache. </p><p> </p><p>The local paper ran a video of the graduating class that Dude was to be part of today. I clicked on it JUST to see, imagine Dude and his family being there. I saw a Mom fixing a collar on a boys shirt, looked at the other kids in the video and thought MY GOSH Dude doesn't look that mature. Then I saw all the smiling faces for a long, hard job well-done and I had to turn it off. See, I never thought Dude could graduate. I know he's smart enough - but he can't sit still long enough to get any real value out of a class room. It's one thing I've never told him he couldn't do - and still encourage him to go to the adult ed classes for a GED - but he won't. It's even part of his probation and he just can't bring himself to go anymore. He'd rather work. He says he's happier working. </p><p> </p><p>So there's my guilty little crummy parent moment of the week for you. See at least Travis graduated high school. I'm so proud of all the kids that have this year - and especially proud of the kids in our board family that have. But I gotta tell ya - it's the ONE thing that I wanted for Dude that I just knew he'd never do in time. </p><p> </p><p>So as Travis goes on to college - even after you thought he couldn't - let it be. Take it on faith that this is one of those "I'll show you Mom, moments." and when he graduates from college? You can admit it again that you didn't think he would - but ...who knows - maybe you thinking what you said was being a crummy parent...and maybe how Travis took it was the driving force to GET him into and keep him in college. </p><p> </p><p>There's always a different way of looking at things - and I'm hopeful that someday Dude will take that GED test and have that behind him too. </p><p> </p><p>Not such a crummy parent - really. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 281065, member: 4964"] Daisy, You know I think a lot of times we tell our kids you can't to keep them from being hurt further. Often in the past years I've had to stop myself from saying something like that, and even if I don't let the words come out of my mouth the "you can't" aura is there and Dude is able to pick up on that quicker than anything else. Which is sad because if he could pick up on my "OH NO" aura regarding his behaviors he could have saved us both a lot of heart ache. The local paper ran a video of the graduating class that Dude was to be part of today. I clicked on it JUST to see, imagine Dude and his family being there. I saw a Mom fixing a collar on a boys shirt, looked at the other kids in the video and thought MY GOSH Dude doesn't look that mature. Then I saw all the smiling faces for a long, hard job well-done and I had to turn it off. See, I never thought Dude could graduate. I know he's smart enough - but he can't sit still long enough to get any real value out of a class room. It's one thing I've never told him he couldn't do - and still encourage him to go to the adult ed classes for a GED - but he won't. It's even part of his probation and he just can't bring himself to go anymore. He'd rather work. He says he's happier working. So there's my guilty little crummy parent moment of the week for you. See at least Travis graduated high school. I'm so proud of all the kids that have this year - and especially proud of the kids in our board family that have. But I gotta tell ya - it's the ONE thing that I wanted for Dude that I just knew he'd never do in time. So as Travis goes on to college - even after you thought he couldn't - let it be. Take it on faith that this is one of those "I'll show you Mom, moments." and when he graduates from college? You can admit it again that you didn't think he would - but ...who knows - maybe you thinking what you said was being a crummy parent...and maybe how Travis took it was the driving force to GET him into and keep him in college. There's always a different way of looking at things - and I'm hopeful that someday Dude will take that GED test and have that behind him too. Not such a crummy parent - really. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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