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Well, I suppose the dung just hit the rotating blades.
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 374900" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sharon's right. For many people, hearing that the other side in a minor dispute (which could turn major) is bringing in a lawyer, can often be enough to have them drop the dispute and walk away.</p><p></p><p>At this point you need to think - am I right? Have there been genuine problems? How badly do I want this resolved? Is there any way at all that they can make it look like this is all my fault, and make it stick?</p><p></p><p>Think about this.</p><p></p><p>If you choose to continue, then go in loaded for bear and ready to stick with this to the bitter (or joyful) end. But if you find tis getting too scary and you choose to walk away, also bear in mind the cost of walking away - they would forever know that you back down when threatened with lawyer involvement, you would be walking away from getting any satisfactory help for Wee, this would keep happening over and over with every new learning placement, Wee would soon realise that his problems would be continuing, that he would be copping unfair treatment and that you are not able to protect him from it.</p><p></p><p>There are costs to each choice and benefits to each choice. You have to choose - but whichever you choose, own it and stick with it. Once you start down this road, you have to continue. If you back off, it's like a pole-vaulter who chickens out just as they stick their pole in the ground and begin the jump. Abort at the wrong time, and it's worse than not trying at all. But follow through, and you can win medals. You just need courage.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 374900, member: 1991"] Sharon's right. For many people, hearing that the other side in a minor dispute (which could turn major) is bringing in a lawyer, can often be enough to have them drop the dispute and walk away. At this point you need to think - am I right? Have there been genuine problems? How badly do I want this resolved? Is there any way at all that they can make it look like this is all my fault, and make it stick? Think about this. If you choose to continue, then go in loaded for bear and ready to stick with this to the bitter (or joyful) end. But if you find tis getting too scary and you choose to walk away, also bear in mind the cost of walking away - they would forever know that you back down when threatened with lawyer involvement, you would be walking away from getting any satisfactory help for Wee, this would keep happening over and over with every new learning placement, Wee would soon realise that his problems would be continuing, that he would be copping unfair treatment and that you are not able to protect him from it. There are costs to each choice and benefits to each choice. You have to choose - but whichever you choose, own it and stick with it. Once you start down this road, you have to continue. If you back off, it's like a pole-vaulter who chickens out just as they stick their pole in the ground and begin the jump. Abort at the wrong time, and it's worse than not trying at all. But follow through, and you can win medals. You just need courage. Marg [/QUOTE]
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