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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 476032" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I just got off the phone with the lady from the re-entry program. I don't think I'm her typical parent. LOL! She started by giving me the typical sale's pitch about 'their services'. I listened then said well, if my son's goals are to complete his education, why on earth are you leading him to believe you can help with that then it becomes the carrot you are dangling in front of his nose when in reality you are planning on sending him to a group home where it's impossible to meet those educational goals in that sd? And while all those services might be wonderful, how on earth can I expend all my time and resources and emotional energy on a job, regular household duties, then umpteen appts, meetings etc ensuring POs goals are met so I have no energy left to even consider how to address my concerns- that your services aren't addressing?</p><p></p><p>So, it was left that she's going to check with her boss about difficult child possibly going to a group home in a sd where his academic goals can be met and she's going to 'check into some other things' that would address my goals and concerns and get back to me.</p><p></p><p>Seriously, this whole modality is based on completing this form about the family's strengths and weaknesses and each individual's goals. However, the POs goals come first, the kid's comes second, and even according to the attny I spoke to, the parent's goals 'are completed by the case worker in order to save time'. I let her know on no uncertain terms that I don't want my son set up for more disappointment and I don't need it anymore. If these things are just being dangled out there to be used as carrots to motivate us when in reality, we end up with nothing more than in home person to do a behavior contract, this kid is not going to come back to live with me, so start looking at long term placement. The ONLY way this is going to work with a reunification plan is for difficult child's goals to be possible and supported and my concerns to be addressed and my time/energy/resources being spent on those things- not expended on whether or not difficult child came home 15 mins later than PO said he should. IOW, don't give lip service to get me to buy into their program when they know they can't meet mine and difficult child's goals or address our concerns and needs. I didn't use those words, but I think she got the point.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 476032, member: 3699"] I just got off the phone with the lady from the re-entry program. I don't think I'm her typical parent. LOL! She started by giving me the typical sale's pitch about 'their services'. I listened then said well, if my son's goals are to complete his education, why on earth are you leading him to believe you can help with that then it becomes the carrot you are dangling in front of his nose when in reality you are planning on sending him to a group home where it's impossible to meet those educational goals in that sd? And while all those services might be wonderful, how on earth can I expend all my time and resources and emotional energy on a job, regular household duties, then umpteen appts, meetings etc ensuring POs goals are met so I have no energy left to even consider how to address my concerns- that your services aren't addressing? So, it was left that she's going to check with her boss about difficult child possibly going to a group home in a sd where his academic goals can be met and she's going to 'check into some other things' that would address my goals and concerns and get back to me. Seriously, this whole modality is based on completing this form about the family's strengths and weaknesses and each individual's goals. However, the POs goals come first, the kid's comes second, and even according to the attny I spoke to, the parent's goals 'are completed by the case worker in order to save time'. I let her know on no uncertain terms that I don't want my son set up for more disappointment and I don't need it anymore. If these things are just being dangled out there to be used as carrots to motivate us when in reality, we end up with nothing more than in home person to do a behavior contract, this kid is not going to come back to live with me, so start looking at long term placement. The ONLY way this is going to work with a reunification plan is for difficult child's goals to be possible and supported and my concerns to be addressed and my time/energy/resources being spent on those things- not expended on whether or not difficult child came home 15 mins later than PO said he should. IOW, don't give lip service to get me to buy into their program when they know they can't meet mine and difficult child's goals or address our concerns and needs. I didn't use those words, but I think she got the point. [/QUOTE]
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