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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 161905" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thank you, Sharon! </p><p></p><p>Another nagging thought, when I testified regarding therapy in January, I found the judge to be reasonable. Now, she might have already had her mind made up and just been patronizing me. difficult child had her 2 years ago as a judge when he stole something and hit me. She was tough but not extreme.</p><p></p><p>I realize that the GAL, PO, and others have much more experience with her than I do and she might be as "closed-minded" and unpredictable as they say. I'm definitely not ruling that out. But my impression was that she is blunt and will smart off to attny's or anyone else in the middle of court. She seemed to handle it just fine when I did that testifying and was pretty blunt, too, although I did throw in a few "with all due respects", "in my layman's opinion", and "just from a parent's point of view- but we will comply with any order you give".</p><p></p><p>So, my impression is that this is just her personality, which is probably different from most judges- especially males who have never been school teachers. But it appears that these attny's freeze in court when she does this and stand there in a stupor rather than take that short opportunity to speak out with their points. So, then the judge will roll her eyes. To me, she is rolling her eyes because she threw out something and rather than them coming back with "Well, your honor, I'd like to also present this or that", they just stand there like paddled first graders. And worse, then there are the defense attny's who have gotten to a point, apparently, where they don't even bother preparing anything for court. So they are chastised more.</p><p></p><p>Again, I have extremely limited experience with judges as compared to the attny's, but as an outsider looking in, this is the way it looks to me. </p><p></p><p>In Jan., I mentioned that if difficult child didn't comply with my rules, he might not have an attny hired for him. She remembered this a couple of weeks ago at his arraignment, I believe, because she specifically told difficult child "if you don't have an attny show up with you, then that's it- you won't get one, do you understand", then she looked at me, and I just slightly smiled and she nodded.</p><p></p><p>The gal asked me if I would be ok testifying again (i get anxiety issues). I said ok, but I thought we should ask difficult child to leave courtroom while I did because I didn't want him to hear some of the things I had to say about his therapist and I didn't want him to feel betrayed if I had to repeat some things he had told me. These things would work in his favor, but i don't want him emabaressed or anything.</p><p></p><p>I don't know- maybe I am just so stressed that I am reading too much into things.</p><p></p><p>Thanks all- for being here and giving support and being so patient with my rambling and venting!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 161905, member: 3699"] Thank you, Sharon! Another nagging thought, when I testified regarding therapy in January, I found the judge to be reasonable. Now, she might have already had her mind made up and just been patronizing me. difficult child had her 2 years ago as a judge when he stole something and hit me. She was tough but not extreme. I realize that the GAL, PO, and others have much more experience with her than I do and she might be as "closed-minded" and unpredictable as they say. I'm definitely not ruling that out. But my impression was that she is blunt and will smart off to attny's or anyone else in the middle of court. She seemed to handle it just fine when I did that testifying and was pretty blunt, too, although I did throw in a few "with all due respects", "in my layman's opinion", and "just from a parent's point of view- but we will comply with any order you give". So, my impression is that this is just her personality, which is probably different from most judges- especially males who have never been school teachers. But it appears that these attny's freeze in court when she does this and stand there in a stupor rather than take that short opportunity to speak out with their points. So, then the judge will roll her eyes. To me, she is rolling her eyes because she threw out something and rather than them coming back with "Well, your honor, I'd like to also present this or that", they just stand there like paddled first graders. And worse, then there are the defense attny's who have gotten to a point, apparently, where they don't even bother preparing anything for court. So they are chastised more. Again, I have extremely limited experience with judges as compared to the attny's, but as an outsider looking in, this is the way it looks to me. In Jan., I mentioned that if difficult child didn't comply with my rules, he might not have an attny hired for him. She remembered this a couple of weeks ago at his arraignment, I believe, because she specifically told difficult child "if you don't have an attny show up with you, then that's it- you won't get one, do you understand", then she looked at me, and I just slightly smiled and she nodded. The gal asked me if I would be ok testifying again (i get anxiety issues). I said ok, but I thought we should ask difficult child to leave courtroom while I did because I didn't want him to hear some of the things I had to say about his therapist and I didn't want him to feel betrayed if I had to repeat some things he had told me. These things would work in his favor, but i don't want him emabaressed or anything. I don't know- maybe I am just so stressed that I am reading too much into things. Thanks all- for being here and giving support and being so patient with my rambling and venting!! [/QUOTE]
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