So, I have the meeting today with the ed spec and middle school Special Education person from school district- you know, the one the state expects you to have before you file a complaint. What do I hear from them? "Well, you know, they normally don't get involved with mental health things." Hellooooooo!! So, are they trying to tell me that they are required to educate all kids except those with mental health issues? Then who is supposed to educate them? He IS going to their school- regular ed- on a daily basis- do I dare think that this means they already are involved? And, OOHHH- I do asked that they look at grades and other evidence of the disability, not just behavior- Oh, GEEZ, dare I asked for this?? Anyway, so they agree to look into it, maybe try to find someone to come educate those at school that "don't get it" (and that is an understatement), and took note (at least for looks) of my reports of some outright absurdities we've endured over the past 3 years. Then, they looked shocked when I told them that although some people in the school district apparently think that if school district is involved in treatment plan that it would mean they would need to dominate the treatment plan, and that this was not going to happen. EXCUSE ME- if the school district didn't identify the problem, had teachers that didn't report any problem, didn't have him tested (I did that privately), tried to set him up to be arrested, didn't follow IDEA and Special Education laws and tried to have him kicked out of school, haven't followed procedures for IEP meetings, FBA, BIP, or manifestation determination- and haven't implemented the current IEP, and, he only has one more year at this school- when I have spent over two years with various professionals trying to hone in on diagnosis, medications, and getting a treatment plan and team together... NO, they will not take over or dominate the treatment plan or team. THEY need to get on board and be flexible and cooperative with the others in difficult child's life. If they don't see the importance of this, then where do they get off thinking they have a right to be in charge of it? A lot was discussed- more than I have energy for right now. We'll see what happens..... Just needed to vent!! Thanks for being here- Edited to add: I probably killed every chance of any help for difficult child when I told them that I had nothing left for the school system and I didn't see how I could ever have any trust or faith in them again- just before I left the meeting. I didn't walk out on it though I stuck it out and said that upon leaving. What a joke.