hmmm where to begin... some of you know me i used to fly under i a n a v my eldest difficult child (19 - mood disorder/ADHD) is now a Dad of a beautiful lil girl he's never seen nor does he accept as his daughter. He broke up with her mom a month before she was born and moved in with this lovely (sarcasm) young lady in another town far far away that is know to have gang officliations. So today eldest calls and says he's had it with her and wants a ride "home". Well he's been thrown out of here more times than I can count. He has no degree, no job, no license and is on probation & had a bucket load of court fines. He is a mess, refuses counseling or medications and his attitude about my grandaughter was the last straw for me. Not to mention he harrasses the hell out of difficult child II (14/BiPolar (BP)) and difficult child II has been in an IOP since July. So the big ?....do I drive an hour and pick his ungrateful butt up? My mind is screaming "NO" but my heart is screaming "How could you not".... Let me have it ladies!