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Went and did it to myself this time....
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<blockquote data-quote="SunnyFlorida" data-source="post: 32693" data-attributes="member: 696"><p>Isn't this a lively post :thumb:. I feel like I'm at the intersection of a Y with two sides using different approaches and both wanting the same outcome. Yahoo for this board. I only wish I had the vocabulary and a way with words as all of you do.</p><p></p><p>I keep thinking Mikey....if your difficult child is almost 18, why is curfew such a big deal? In your current parenting style, and please do not read anything into this at all...but it seems like you've picked curfew as your line in the sand. Why?</p><p></p><p>From what you've said before, your difficult child does well in the alternative school, works, pays his car insurance and note on the car, does help around the house, smokes pot, and misses curfew. So what....in 6mo if he's 18 and in college no one really cares about curfew. There won't be anyone monitoring him. He'll be able to smoke as much pot as he can afford and come back to wherever he's staying whenever he wants. </p><p></p><p>Is he graduating this year?</p><p></p><p>It would seem to me that your goals of raising a productive, law abiding citizen are almost there, albeit the pot use.</p><p></p><p>Why not take the car away until he gives you a clean drug test? Show him that there are consequences to his actions. All in the good sense of being a reasonable parent who expects their children to make mistakes and learn from them. Don't make a fuss over it, just have him drop a U/A and if it's dirty say no car until it's clean. What's he going to do...run away? yeah...like I believe that. So what if he does? If your difficult child is doing all that you say he is doing it won't take him very long to see that. </p><p></p><p>If you don't take a stand and show him through modeling that drug usage will cause problems sooner or later, when will you? when difficult child is at college and campus police or local police pull him over? Will difficult child know how to solve those issues?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SunnyFlorida, post: 32693, member: 696"] Isn't this a lively post [img]:thumb:[/img]. I feel like I'm at the intersection of a Y with two sides using different approaches and both wanting the same outcome. Yahoo for this board. I only wish I had the vocabulary and a way with words as all of you do. I keep thinking Mikey....if your difficult child is almost 18, why is curfew such a big deal? In your current parenting style, and please do not read anything into this at all...but it seems like you've picked curfew as your line in the sand. Why? From what you've said before, your difficult child does well in the alternative school, works, pays his car insurance and note on the car, does help around the house, smokes pot, and misses curfew. So what....in 6mo if he's 18 and in college no one really cares about curfew. There won't be anyone monitoring him. He'll be able to smoke as much pot as he can afford and come back to wherever he's staying whenever he wants. Is he graduating this year? It would seem to me that your goals of raising a productive, law abiding citizen are almost there, albeit the pot use. Why not take the car away until he gives you a clean drug test? Show him that there are consequences to his actions. All in the good sense of being a reasonable parent who expects their children to make mistakes and learn from them. Don't make a fuss over it, just have him drop a U/A and if it's dirty say no car until it's clean. What's he going to do...run away? yeah...like I believe that. So what if he does? If your difficult child is doing all that you say he is doing it won't take him very long to see that. If you don't take a stand and show him through modeling that drug usage will cause problems sooner or later, when will you? when difficult child is at college and campus police or local police pull him over? Will difficult child know how to solve those issues? [/QUOTE]
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