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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 381228" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Jen, I think you have to take her. If you keep her home it is going to get so much worse. She NEEDS this help and needs it NOW. </p><p> </p><p>I promise that they will work out the middle of the night thing. They won't leave a kid abandoned in the middle of the night to her mania and anxiety. MANY of our kids are nightowls, or their problems are much worse at night. She will NOT be the first person there who has problems at night. </p><p> </p><p>She NEEDS professionals to observe her and figure this out. She will get medications to bring things to a level where she can use the coping skills she has and will learn, and will be on them long enough to know if the side effects will pass or the medication needs to be changed. It is also very possible that with-o you right there at night, she will learn to soothe herself and find a way to sleep part of the night so she can function during the day. </p><p> </p><p>After a while she might enjoy being around the other kids and work to change her sleep schedule so she is awake during the day. </p><p> </p><p>She will also get help with this food phobia, which is incredibly serious and needs IMMEDIATE treatment.</p><p> </p><p>This place won't be perfect, esp at first. There will be things that must be worked out, but in my opinion you don't have weeks to figure this out, to find an alternative that will be perfect that you can afford. </p><p> </p><p>Unless you have another option, one that is realistic, I think you need to admit her as soon as they have an opening for her. She NEEDS this help, even if it isn't the perfect place. </p><p> </p><p>She isn't getting better at home or with her dad. The guilt he used to get her to eat is an incredibly destructive tool, esp for eating disorders. </p><p> </p><p>When you admit her, ask them what goes on at night, how many staff are there, what training they have, etc...It may help ease your mind about her being there.</p><p> </p><p>You are going to have to harden your heart against her pleas to take her out of there early. Unless there is actual abuse going on, leaving her there is at least a chance to help her with the dangerous food phobia and her other problems. </p><p> </p><p>{{{{{{{{{{hugs for you and husband and the other kids}}}}}}}}}} {{{{{{{{{{hugs for difficult child}}}}}}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 381228, member: 1233"] Jen, I think you have to take her. If you keep her home it is going to get so much worse. She NEEDS this help and needs it NOW. I promise that they will work out the middle of the night thing. They won't leave a kid abandoned in the middle of the night to her mania and anxiety. MANY of our kids are nightowls, or their problems are much worse at night. She will NOT be the first person there who has problems at night. She NEEDS professionals to observe her and figure this out. She will get medications to bring things to a level where she can use the coping skills she has and will learn, and will be on them long enough to know if the side effects will pass or the medication needs to be changed. It is also very possible that with-o you right there at night, she will learn to soothe herself and find a way to sleep part of the night so she can function during the day. After a while she might enjoy being around the other kids and work to change her sleep schedule so she is awake during the day. She will also get help with this food phobia, which is incredibly serious and needs IMMEDIATE treatment. This place won't be perfect, esp at first. There will be things that must be worked out, but in my opinion you don't have weeks to figure this out, to find an alternative that will be perfect that you can afford. Unless you have another option, one that is realistic, I think you need to admit her as soon as they have an opening for her. She NEEDS this help, even if it isn't the perfect place. She isn't getting better at home or with her dad. The guilt he used to get her to eat is an incredibly destructive tool, esp for eating disorders. When you admit her, ask them what goes on at night, how many staff are there, what training they have, etc...It may help ease your mind about her being there. You are going to have to harden your heart against her pleas to take her out of there early. Unless there is actual abuse going on, leaving her there is at least a chance to help her with the dangerous food phobia and her other problems. {{{{{{{{{{hugs for you and husband and the other kids}}}}}}}}}} {{{{{{{{{{hugs for difficult child}}}}}}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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