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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 381384" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>The structure and routine they have sounds really nice. There is something so important about establishing a routine in these anxiety/mania situations. At first she will hate it, she will complain and she WILL use every guilt trip in the book to get home. It's like a puppy on it's first few nights away from mom and the litter mates. She will whine whine whine and howel hoping you will save her. It's after that stage that she will start to do better. Don't expect fast results. Once she sinks into a new structure she will grow to find comfort in it and slowly relax. (she may even get temporarily worse so be prepared, it is soooo common) She will be in a SAFE place. Even though you may be afraid they are professionals and are set up to manage her.</p><p> </p><p>There will always be someone around in the nurses station. They will never leave kiddos or any other patients unsupervised. During her late night moments they will be there to try and redirect her. I am sure they have seen their share of people climbing the walls and howling at the moon. Their goal will more than likely be to slowly wean her back to a regular wake/sleep schedule. That takes time, they know it. </p><p> </p><p>Try to find ways to encourage her to keep some of the routine when she gets home. Eating and sleeping are obvious but simple things like meals at the same time as were served there, doing some of the yoga with her etc. will go a long way. When she finally gets settled in and the comes home disrupting her routine can cause some anxiety. Her routine will likely become her safety net/security blanket.</p><p> </p><p>I am sooo glad the school is on board and communicating with them. That in itself is such a blessing!!</p><p> </p><p>I am sorry to hear about your fried emotions and difficulties with husband. Try not to do or say anything too drastic, yet. A lack of sleep coupled with major stress really has a way of changing people in a way even they may not sense. After a couple weeks of solid sleep, quiet time as a couple and time to think you will find that the world will look very different. Even though you are between a rock and a hard place I suspect your husband may be feeling a bit forgotten, I bet he understands why but it doesn't make him need you less... Even though you are at your wits end try not to fall into a situation where you make major relationship choices, yet. He MUST love you if he has been by your side this far. Maybe, tell him you are scared, exhausted and need him to help you through this. Some men like to feel like they can be problem solvers so when their lady is in distress and they feel helpless to save her it gets them edgy. It is so easy to become adversarial rather than closer during times of high stress, that is normal.</p><p> </p><p>Long story short, when the dust settles the two of you will probably remember why you fell in love in the first place, again. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> These difficult child's really dump a lot of drama on what could be perfect romances.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> You shouldn't have to choose between the two.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 381384, member: 8617"] The structure and routine they have sounds really nice. There is something so important about establishing a routine in these anxiety/mania situations. At first she will hate it, she will complain and she WILL use every guilt trip in the book to get home. It's like a puppy on it's first few nights away from mom and the litter mates. She will whine whine whine and howel hoping you will save her. It's after that stage that she will start to do better. Don't expect fast results. Once she sinks into a new structure she will grow to find comfort in it and slowly relax. (she may even get temporarily worse so be prepared, it is soooo common) She will be in a SAFE place. Even though you may be afraid they are professionals and are set up to manage her. There will always be someone around in the nurses station. They will never leave kiddos or any other patients unsupervised. During her late night moments they will be there to try and redirect her. I am sure they have seen their share of people climbing the walls and howling at the moon. Their goal will more than likely be to slowly wean her back to a regular wake/sleep schedule. That takes time, they know it. Try to find ways to encourage her to keep some of the routine when she gets home. Eating and sleeping are obvious but simple things like meals at the same time as were served there, doing some of the yoga with her etc. will go a long way. When she finally gets settled in and the comes home disrupting her routine can cause some anxiety. Her routine will likely become her safety net/security blanket. I am sooo glad the school is on board and communicating with them. That in itself is such a blessing!! I am sorry to hear about your fried emotions and difficulties with husband. Try not to do or say anything too drastic, yet. A lack of sleep coupled with major stress really has a way of changing people in a way even they may not sense. After a couple weeks of solid sleep, quiet time as a couple and time to think you will find that the world will look very different. Even though you are between a rock and a hard place I suspect your husband may be feeling a bit forgotten, I bet he understands why but it doesn't make him need you less... Even though you are at your wits end try not to fall into a situation where you make major relationship choices, yet. He MUST love you if he has been by your side this far. Maybe, tell him you are scared, exhausted and need him to help you through this. Some men like to feel like they can be problem solvers so when their lady is in distress and they feel helpless to save her it gets them edgy. It is so easy to become adversarial rather than closer during times of high stress, that is normal. Long story short, when the dust settles the two of you will probably remember why you fell in love in the first place, again. :winking: These difficult child's really dump a lot of drama on what could be perfect romances.:raspberry-tounge: You shouldn't have to choose between the two. [/QUOTE]
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