We had a horrible a.m, (I started another thread this a.m.) and easy child made her own appointment with-the child psychiatric and he called me while she was there and put me on speaker phone. She said she does not feel safe, and more than that, she worries the she is the peacemaker (true! at least for the moment) and worries about what we will do when she is away at school next yr. The child psychiatric said admittance to a psychiatric hospital would be the way to go at this point. I asked if we should wait until difficult child escalates again and then have the police take him, and he said first off, they won't transport him, and 2nd, he'd freak. This is calmer. Better to do it on a long weekend when there's an open bed. A certain amt of expediency and pragmantism here! easy child told the dr some things we had forgotten to tell him or that had fallen through the cracks--difficult child urinating on the floor and in the wastebasket, and urinating in empty hairspray bottles, which difficult child said was because he was sent to his rm and not allowed to go to the bathroom. Ea thing he does has some sort of explanation, logical or not, but when you string it all together, it spells something. Not sure what the "something" is but it is a pattern of oddness. Not to mention the rages. So that factored into the dr's opinion too. The dr said to expect a "broken system" and a lot of frustration. I kind of chuckled at that because I know how much you all have been through. I plan to assert myself in regard to getting copies of paperwork and asking for specific tests. He said they may even send us home with-o admitting him, despite the fact he called ahead and they have open beds, so to expect anything. He also said to expect a lot of psychiatric terms to be thrown at me, like ODD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), Asperberger's, biplar, schizophrenia, etc. Uh, ya think? Again, I thank you all because I know about these from your notes and feel a bit like I've been there done that. For that reason, I think I will handle it better than husband, who, well, is good at working a lot. I called the new psychiatrist and asked if he had privileges at this hospital. He said not admitting priv, but visiting priv for established pts. I said, "Well, I guess we're doing this backward." And told him we'd chat in a few days. I'm curious to see if the hospital will do some of the same tests he was going to do. I did as much as I could do with-the hospital over the phone and asked if we could go in at 7 p.m. because of rush hr traffic and they said fine. They said they will do a quick intake assess and then the dr does rounds in the a.m. After that, a soc. wkr will set up a mtng with-the family. The good part is that the kids have no school Fri-Mon so difficult child will only miss one day of school. We are going to tell difficult child that he is going to see a special psychiatric dr, but the child psychiatric said not to tell him were were leaving him there until we actually get there, or he may not even get in the car. This is the really hard part. I know a lot of you have dealt with-this b4 and I never, ever dreamed I would be the one. I didn't know how to respond to your notes except to send hugs. I'll have a meltdown and a good cry for my "little boy" but it will have to wait until I walk through this. I have to be calm and strong for him. husband gets off work at 5:30, and I'm packing a suitcase for difficult child right now. This is really sad and scary but I hope we get some answers. This five days will be much, much longer than the 28 days he was away at camp!!!!