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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 626715" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thank you. </p><p></p><p>I had a long talk with my granddaughter last night. She believes this is a completion of major proportions for her, her sisters and for me.</p><p></p><p>The two older girls managed to get everything out of that unit yesterday. They found pictures of my daughter and of me and some things that they want to give to me. My granddaughter found childhood objects which are important to her. We talked about her Dad and I told her some of my memories of him. He killed himself when she was only 3 years old, so her memories are minimal. We talked about her mother and how her mother's behavior is not personal to her or to me, it is how her brain perceives the world. She seems to really be able to understand that. I have been telling her that for most of her life. She and I are feeling similar feelings about all of these recent events representing an ending.</p><p></p><p>I can't explain this in any logical manner, however, the opening of that storage unit seems to have brought the light of sun into all of our lives. It seems to have opened up a dark, closed space to allow grief and joy to surface for the girls and for me too. It's as if a part of all of us was locked away in that dark unit. I could feel a difference in talking to my granddaughter and in the ways in which my own viewpoint has expanded. </p><p></p><p>I haven't spoken to my daughter in quite some time, it appears she is respecting my wishes for no drama. She goes to court on May 29th to find out what is next. Like many here, I hope for her to stay where she is. At this point, all she has to get out for is to go live on the streets, or if she were willing to make phone calls, a shelter. </p><p></p><p>That empty feeling remains. I like it too. I am now so removed from any feelings with my daughter that it is becoming my new normal. All of the trauma from these last 14 years since the suicide of my son-in-law seems to have slipped quietly into the past. It feels so remote to me that I can't bring any of it into view anymore. This feels healthy and timely. It's time to move on, for all of us. If my daughter makes the choice to remain stuck, then from this point forward, she will be doing that completely on her own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 626715, member: 13542"] Thank you. I had a long talk with my granddaughter last night. She believes this is a completion of major proportions for her, her sisters and for me. The two older girls managed to get everything out of that unit yesterday. They found pictures of my daughter and of me and some things that they want to give to me. My granddaughter found childhood objects which are important to her. We talked about her Dad and I told her some of my memories of him. He killed himself when she was only 3 years old, so her memories are minimal. We talked about her mother and how her mother's behavior is not personal to her or to me, it is how her brain perceives the world. She seems to really be able to understand that. I have been telling her that for most of her life. She and I are feeling similar feelings about all of these recent events representing an ending. I can't explain this in any logical manner, however, the opening of that storage unit seems to have brought the light of sun into all of our lives. It seems to have opened up a dark, closed space to allow grief and joy to surface for the girls and for me too. It's as if a part of all of us was locked away in that dark unit. I could feel a difference in talking to my granddaughter and in the ways in which my own viewpoint has expanded. I haven't spoken to my daughter in quite some time, it appears she is respecting my wishes for no drama. She goes to court on May 29th to find out what is next. Like many here, I hope for her to stay where she is. At this point, all she has to get out for is to go live on the streets, or if she were willing to make phone calls, a shelter. That empty feeling remains. I like it too. I am now so removed from any feelings with my daughter that it is becoming my new normal. All of the trauma from these last 14 years since the suicide of my son-in-law seems to have slipped quietly into the past. It feels so remote to me that I can't bring any of it into view anymore. This feels healthy and timely. It's time to move on, for all of us. If my daughter makes the choice to remain stuck, then from this point forward, she will be doing that completely on her own. [/QUOTE]
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