Fasten your seat belts . . . this is going to be long.
While husband and I were heading to the mall to exchange a gift, he got a message on his smartphone that we had gotten a message on our home phone. He called to see what it was and it was the pharmacy calling asking for difficult child to return a call about a prescription.
Well, alarm bells starting ringing since I had just gone with difficult child to the community mental health center to get her prescriptions filled so I knew she didn't need anything else. Of course, I assumed the worst and thought she was using a forged prescription or getting drugs for someone else.
I immediately called difficult child who said she didn't know why the pharmacy would have left a message. I told her that I was calling the director of the halfway house and she said fine and gave me his number. So I called and the director answered. I explained the situation and told him I couldn't think of any good reason the pharmacy was calling about a prescription for difficult child. He said he would check into it and call me back.
He called back about 30 minutes later and said he had great news. He said she tested clean for everything - - marijuana, cocaine, opiates, benzos, and meth. I asked him why the pharmacy had called and he said that she told him it was for birth control. He then added that she was doing great. He said that she was quiet, always back before curfew, attending meetings. He said that the thought her real problem was that she needed to grow up and stop expecting us to take care of her. He added that he thought that being where she was had been really good for her since she was seeing how messed up other people were and that she didn't want to end up living like that. The director said that he really felt like she was going to do great and he didn't get to say that about most of the people he saw go through there.
difficult child called as soon as I hung up to tell me that she had passed the drug test (she didn't know that I had just talked to the director). She was really happy and wasn't upset at all that I had suspected she was doing something wrong. I mentioned that the director had told me the call was about birth control and she said that is was but that she had been embarrassed to tell me. I asked her how she had planned to pay for it and she said that Peter Pan (the live with his parents and play video games all the time boyfriend) was going to pay for it. She said that she had called to see if she had any refills left from a while ago which would explain why the pharmacist needed to talk to her.
I was still a little skeptical and asked her why she would have been embarrassed to tell me about the birth control when two years ago she had come in to my room one night to show me something Peter Pan had bought her for Christmas which was very inappropriate to show your mother. She didn't hesitate for a second and said that had been when she was drunk. She said she would never have showed me something like that when she was sober and actually sounded embarrassed to even be talking about it now.
I asked her then if she wanted to spend New Year's Eve with us and stay overnight so she wouldn't have any temptations. She said she wanted to think about it and then called me back a few minutes later and said she would like that. So we have appointments for manicures on Saturday afternoon and then plan to see a movie and spend New Year's Eve at home.
So while still very skeptical and not letting down my guard, I see some positives:
1) She passed the drug test.
2) She sounded very happy and proud of herself for how she was doing.
3) She didn't get mad that I was suspicious and checked up on her.
4) She has a job interview on Monday.
5) The director of the halfway house said she was doing well and he had high hopes for her.
6) She ended the call with, "I love you, Mom."
Do you think it is okay for me to let myself be a little hopeful???
~Kathy
While husband and I were heading to the mall to exchange a gift, he got a message on his smartphone that we had gotten a message on our home phone. He called to see what it was and it was the pharmacy calling asking for difficult child to return a call about a prescription.
Well, alarm bells starting ringing since I had just gone with difficult child to the community mental health center to get her prescriptions filled so I knew she didn't need anything else. Of course, I assumed the worst and thought she was using a forged prescription or getting drugs for someone else.
I immediately called difficult child who said she didn't know why the pharmacy would have left a message. I told her that I was calling the director of the halfway house and she said fine and gave me his number. So I called and the director answered. I explained the situation and told him I couldn't think of any good reason the pharmacy was calling about a prescription for difficult child. He said he would check into it and call me back.
He called back about 30 minutes later and said he had great news. He said she tested clean for everything - - marijuana, cocaine, opiates, benzos, and meth. I asked him why the pharmacy had called and he said that she told him it was for birth control. He then added that she was doing great. He said that she was quiet, always back before curfew, attending meetings. He said that the thought her real problem was that she needed to grow up and stop expecting us to take care of her. He added that he thought that being where she was had been really good for her since she was seeing how messed up other people were and that she didn't want to end up living like that. The director said that he really felt like she was going to do great and he didn't get to say that about most of the people he saw go through there.
difficult child called as soon as I hung up to tell me that she had passed the drug test (she didn't know that I had just talked to the director). She was really happy and wasn't upset at all that I had suspected she was doing something wrong. I mentioned that the director had told me the call was about birth control and she said that is was but that she had been embarrassed to tell me. I asked her how she had planned to pay for it and she said that Peter Pan (the live with his parents and play video games all the time boyfriend) was going to pay for it. She said that she had called to see if she had any refills left from a while ago which would explain why the pharmacist needed to talk to her.
I was still a little skeptical and asked her why she would have been embarrassed to tell me about the birth control when two years ago she had come in to my room one night to show me something Peter Pan had bought her for Christmas which was very inappropriate to show your mother. She didn't hesitate for a second and said that had been when she was drunk. She said she would never have showed me something like that when she was sober and actually sounded embarrassed to even be talking about it now.
I asked her then if she wanted to spend New Year's Eve with us and stay overnight so she wouldn't have any temptations. She said she wanted to think about it and then called me back a few minutes later and said she would like that. So we have appointments for manicures on Saturday afternoon and then plan to see a movie and spend New Year's Eve at home.
So while still very skeptical and not letting down my guard, I see some positives:
1) She passed the drug test.
2) She sounded very happy and proud of herself for how she was doing.
3) She didn't get mad that I was suspicious and checked up on her.
4) She has a job interview on Monday.
5) The director of the halfway house said she was doing well and he had high hopes for her.
6) She ended the call with, "I love you, Mom."
Do you think it is okay for me to let myself be a little hopeful???
~Kathy
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