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what actually constitutes a suspension (or change in placement?)
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 406743" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Go to the meeting, but make it clear - you cannot agree to anything until you have been given time to absorb the information in the report. Expecting anything more form you is an ambush and is unacceptable. If they complain about time-wasting, remind them that you have been trying to get copies of the repot so you would be able to arrive prepared - it is not YOUR deficit that resulted in you not having a copy.</p><p></p><p>Also at the meeting raise the procedure that had him not allowed to eat his lunch. Not acceptable. Kids need nourishment. That should have been dealt with. Even prisoners in jail get fed.</p><p></p><p>It sounds a lot like difficult child 1's suspension - that teacher handled things badly for him, too, and had him sitting in her office for hours, without calling me. I just happened to drop in to the school for a totally different reason, and saw him. And asked. He had been there for two hours at that stage, and they had made no attempt to telephone me. And by then, they should have. They wanted to present me with a fait accompli of suspension (which they did) but for me, it was the last straw. He had done something stupid and earned the suspension (idiocy, not being a bad kid) but the teacher (acting principal) mishandled things and clearly demonstrated the bias. So when we went back for the "Have you seen the error of your ways?" meeting three days later, I went armed for bear, ready to pull difficult child 1 out of that school if I was given the slightest reason. And I was - so I did. And her attitude changed from punitive to grovelling so very fast, it was almost laughable, if it hadn't been MY kid being mucked around.</p><p></p><p>Do your homework, find out his rights and your rights, and push the envelope on the limits to suspension. If they repeat that he deserves to be punished for his bad behaviour because it's the only way he will learn - ask this: "How well do you think he is learning this? How is this working for you? Because he will soon be unable to be suspended. What do you intend to do then? Since you must change tack then, why not change now? Because from my point of view, your methods are failing him miserably."</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 406743, member: 1991"] Go to the meeting, but make it clear - you cannot agree to anything until you have been given time to absorb the information in the report. Expecting anything more form you is an ambush and is unacceptable. If they complain about time-wasting, remind them that you have been trying to get copies of the repot so you would be able to arrive prepared - it is not YOUR deficit that resulted in you not having a copy. Also at the meeting raise the procedure that had him not allowed to eat his lunch. Not acceptable. Kids need nourishment. That should have been dealt with. Even prisoners in jail get fed. It sounds a lot like difficult child 1's suspension - that teacher handled things badly for him, too, and had him sitting in her office for hours, without calling me. I just happened to drop in to the school for a totally different reason, and saw him. And asked. He had been there for two hours at that stage, and they had made no attempt to telephone me. And by then, they should have. They wanted to present me with a fait accompli of suspension (which they did) but for me, it was the last straw. He had done something stupid and earned the suspension (idiocy, not being a bad kid) but the teacher (acting principal) mishandled things and clearly demonstrated the bias. So when we went back for the "Have you seen the error of your ways?" meeting three days later, I went armed for bear, ready to pull difficult child 1 out of that school if I was given the slightest reason. And I was - so I did. And her attitude changed from punitive to grovelling so very fast, it was almost laughable, if it hadn't been MY kid being mucked around. Do your homework, find out his rights and your rights, and push the envelope on the limits to suspension. If they repeat that he deserves to be punished for his bad behaviour because it's the only way he will learn - ask this: "How well do you think he is learning this? How is this working for you? Because he will soon be unable to be suspended. What do you intend to do then? Since you must change tack then, why not change now? Because from my point of view, your methods are failing him miserably." Good luck. Marg [/QUOTE]
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