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What are other's experiences with letting their child stay in jail?
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<blockquote data-quote="pinevalley" data-source="post: 582441" data-attributes="member: 3710"><p>My difficult child was arrested last year when he was 18 years old for theft, because he needed money to buy drugs and he took jewelry from the mother of a friend of his. We posted bail for him, because I was terrified at the thought of my son being behind bars. However just 3 days later he was arrested again for another theft, which was a felony charge. This time we refused to post bail, and he stayed in jail for months. He was convicted of two felony charges but the judge put him in a special drug probation program to help him and keep him out of prison. Our difficult child was off of drugs for 9 months when he was in jail, but as soon as he was released he started using again. Even being locked up was not enough to convince difficult child that he has a drug problem. Unfortunately our difficult child has not made the decision that he can Never use drugs at all, and until he realizes this there is very little that husband and I can do. Our difficult child has to be drug tested as part of his probation, and he has failed two drug tests so far. Last week he was called before the same judge for the probation violations, and she ordered difficult child to go back to jail for the next two months. </p><p> I'm sure that you are worried about your difficult child being locked up, but I have found that these kids are definitely survivors. I am not worried about the safety of my difficult child when he is in jail, because he has not been hurt and he knows how to act and what to do when he is in jail. At least when your difficult child is in jail he is not driving wildly and smoking and drinking while driving. Maybe you can see if the judge can order your difficult child to attend an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) on a court ordered basis. I would NOT bail your difficult child out of jail until he agrees to go to get treatment, and you are able to make all the arrangements to get him admitted to a treatment center. Good luck, and please let us know what happens. (((HUGS)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pinevalley, post: 582441, member: 3710"] My difficult child was arrested last year when he was 18 years old for theft, because he needed money to buy drugs and he took jewelry from the mother of a friend of his. We posted bail for him, because I was terrified at the thought of my son being behind bars. However just 3 days later he was arrested again for another theft, which was a felony charge. This time we refused to post bail, and he stayed in jail for months. He was convicted of two felony charges but the judge put him in a special drug probation program to help him and keep him out of prison. Our difficult child was off of drugs for 9 months when he was in jail, but as soon as he was released he started using again. Even being locked up was not enough to convince difficult child that he has a drug problem. Unfortunately our difficult child has not made the decision that he can Never use drugs at all, and until he realizes this there is very little that husband and I can do. Our difficult child has to be drug tested as part of his probation, and he has failed two drug tests so far. Last week he was called before the same judge for the probation violations, and she ordered difficult child to go back to jail for the next two months. I'm sure that you are worried about your difficult child being locked up, but I have found that these kids are definitely survivors. I am not worried about the safety of my difficult child when he is in jail, because he has not been hurt and he knows how to act and what to do when he is in jail. At least when your difficult child is in jail he is not driving wildly and smoking and drinking while driving. Maybe you can see if the judge can order your difficult child to attend an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) on a court ordered basis. I would NOT bail your difficult child out of jail until he agrees to go to get treatment, and you are able to make all the arrangements to get him admitted to a treatment center. Good luck, and please let us know what happens. (((HUGS))) [/QUOTE]
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