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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 566109" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hi, army wife. I think for me the nub of the matter is not what sort of relationship you have and how the power/decision-making is divided but how comfortable you are with the arrangement you have. And clearly you are not comfortable with it, and that has to be a matter of concern for you. I remember a speaker/therapist/writer with whom I did a little work talking about how there were two fidelities in any relationship - fidelity to the relationship, to the other person, and fidelity to oneself. It sounds very much like your fidelity to yourself is being badly compromised and you are unhappy about it, unsurprisingly. How do you sort this out? I would second the advice of therapy, though I think if you embark on therapy it may take you to unexpected places. </p><p></p><p>Don't put up with being treated like rubbish, my dear.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 566109, member: 11227"] Hi, army wife. I think for me the nub of the matter is not what sort of relationship you have and how the power/decision-making is divided but how comfortable you are with the arrangement you have. And clearly you are not comfortable with it, and that has to be a matter of concern for you. I remember a speaker/therapist/writer with whom I did a little work talking about how there were two fidelities in any relationship - fidelity to the relationship, to the other person, and fidelity to oneself. It sounds very much like your fidelity to yourself is being badly compromised and you are unhappy about it, unsurprisingly. How do you sort this out? I would second the advice of therapy, though I think if you embark on therapy it may take you to unexpected places. Don't put up with being treated like rubbish, my dear. [/QUOTE]
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