Well, my outlook on this is based somewhat on the fact that my personal info is pretty easy to find online, too, due to my profession. If someone doesn't have an unlisted phone number, is it out of line to look their name up in the phone book- even if you are not going to call them or don't really need to know it? To me, it's the same if you google someone. It's public knowledge or it shouldn't be popping right up. If they don't want it public knowledge, they need to deal with their own info being on the internet.
To me, the line is doing something to find out info that is not public. For instance, paying one of those places to get unlisted phone numbers.
I happened to learn this info over a course of time anyway, in bits and pieces, and it all wasn't from me googling or even trying to find anything at all out. For instance, difficult child's principal couldn't care less if we know where she lives. (I'm not saying that she wouldn't care about anyone knowing- just that she was pretty open with me about her family and stuff.) Another-Being that Gal's here are all attny's, the GAL's name, number, and address popped up a year or so ago when I was looking online for a ddefense attnorney for difficult child and I searched for local juvenile attorneys. I can't help it if she apparently has no real office that she works out of. I already had her phone number, by the way- she gave it to me.
Is that invading their privacy any more than me having to testify to gal, po, judge, what happened, specifically, in bed- sexually- between me and someone else 30 years ago? (When we've never had any court case pertaining to abuse allegations toward difficult child, me having any relationship, difficult child having any allegations pertaining to sex, etc)
Eeky, i don't know- maybe it's just me- but I get vibes sometimes that you have some issue with me. LOL! This isn't the first time you've posted to my threads insinuating some pretty negative things when in reality, you have never walked in my shoes or anywhere close to them. Other than a couple of threads a long time ago, I don't recall reading anything about "your" difficult child so I have trouble relating to you, too. But, I don't go on websites where people in the system vent about clients or parents and post statements to them about being "weird and creepy".
Janet- you have a good point. I lived across the street from my pediatrician, my mom's best friend was an administrator for the high school- although she was a guidance counselor when I was in school. When I was in high school and dating my husband, he took us to visit the one and only judge by stopping by his house unannounced. (He was actually very nice about it all- I fussed at my husband for going unannounced.) LOL! I guess I grew up without people feeling paranoid about stuff like that.