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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 455331"><p>I have been almost entirely "over" my experience with my difficult child nephew for some time now. I only sporadically come here, for instance, to read posts. Not that I lack compassion for the parents here, but it has taken me a year or so to get past my time with difficult child. So last week I was on vacation with my easy child son in L.A. and we were walked through the street mall on 3rd Street in Santa Monica. It was a lovely experience until suddenly I heard a woman shouting and turned and saw a mother angrily and frustratedly dressing down a 15ish daughter in full difficult child regalia--piercings, hippie/druggie outfit, etc--who was firing back at full bore, every inch the difficult child. The mother ended up in tears, and the daughter haughtily leapt to her feet and moved in for the verbal kill, shouting and raging and all of that, very nearly assaulting her mother. And it brought me right back into those memories. The old rage reared up in me and it was all I could do not to intercede, to face off with the girl and let her have it (verbally) with both barrels, to demand that she respect or at least not accost her mother in public like this, to clean up her !@#$ act and stop behaving like a churl, etc etc. My son, who had seen a bellyful of difficult child nephew (his first cousin) in spring of last year, was similarly provoked. I suppose I will always react to this sort of thing when I sporadically see it: rage at the punk difficult child and the desire to intercede in behalf of the parent. The memories are there, lurking, waiting for the trigger. This is why I can NEVER be in the presence of my difficult child nephew again. It's just too provocative and disturbing. If I ever see a male difficult child violently accosting a parent again, I honestly don't know what I'll do, but it won't be pretty. Goodbye to all that. It just throws all my old switches.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 455331"] I have been almost entirely "over" my experience with my difficult child nephew for some time now. I only sporadically come here, for instance, to read posts. Not that I lack compassion for the parents here, but it has taken me a year or so to get past my time with difficult child. So last week I was on vacation with my easy child son in L.A. and we were walked through the street mall on 3rd Street in Santa Monica. It was a lovely experience until suddenly I heard a woman shouting and turned and saw a mother angrily and frustratedly dressing down a 15ish daughter in full difficult child regalia--piercings, hippie/druggie outfit, etc--who was firing back at full bore, every inch the difficult child. The mother ended up in tears, and the daughter haughtily leapt to her feet and moved in for the verbal kill, shouting and raging and all of that, very nearly assaulting her mother. And it brought me right back into those memories. The old rage reared up in me and it was all I could do not to intercede, to face off with the girl and let her have it (verbally) with both barrels, to demand that she respect or at least not accost her mother in public like this, to clean up her !@#$ act and stop behaving like a churl, etc etc. My son, who had seen a bellyful of difficult child nephew (his first cousin) in spring of last year, was similarly provoked. I suppose I will always react to this sort of thing when I sporadically see it: rage at the punk difficult child and the desire to intercede in behalf of the parent. The memories are there, lurking, waiting for the trigger. This is why I can NEVER be in the presence of my difficult child nephew again. It's just too provocative and disturbing. If I ever see a male difficult child violently accosting a parent again, I honestly don't know what I'll do, but it won't be pretty. Goodbye to all that. It just throws all my old switches. [/QUOTE]
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