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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 495458" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>SJ--</p><p></p><p>We've lived with a similar situation....so perhaps our choices may be of some help to you:</p><p></p><p>First, we laid down the law for difficult child - NO TOUCHING ANYBODY FOR ANY REASON. And we MEANT it. We began making a police report for any kind of physical scuffle...no matter how minor. If difficult child pushed, shoved, hit, whatever....police report. Officers gave her a good "talking to" on several occassions.</p><p></p><p>We also told difficult child that there will be NO THREATS. Now because these were often more subtle, more nuanced types of intimidation...we did not call police for these - but we DID make difficult child's life difficult by removing a priviledge. For example, if she and her brother were watching TV - and she turned and said something nasty to him? SHE was removed from the TV room. No arguments...no discussion...just out.</p><p></p><p>And meanwhile, because we did not kid ourselves that difficult child was going to maintain control of herself....we separated the two children for just about everything. Going to the store? husband took one child - and I took the other. Activities? DS was allowed to sign up for one activity - and difficult child signed up for a different activity. Staying at home? Each child was given something different to do....maybe one could play a computer game while one watched a video. And if they were going to play together it was closely supervised and for a limited amount of time.</p><p></p><p>Yes - it is a difficult way to live....but we felt that we had no choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 495458, member: 6546"] SJ-- We've lived with a similar situation....so perhaps our choices may be of some help to you: First, we laid down the law for difficult child - NO TOUCHING ANYBODY FOR ANY REASON. And we MEANT it. We began making a police report for any kind of physical scuffle...no matter how minor. If difficult child pushed, shoved, hit, whatever....police report. Officers gave her a good "talking to" on several occassions. We also told difficult child that there will be NO THREATS. Now because these were often more subtle, more nuanced types of intimidation...we did not call police for these - but we DID make difficult child's life difficult by removing a priviledge. For example, if she and her brother were watching TV - and she turned and said something nasty to him? SHE was removed from the TV room. No arguments...no discussion...just out. And meanwhile, because we did not kid ourselves that difficult child was going to maintain control of herself....we separated the two children for just about everything. Going to the store? husband took one child - and I took the other. Activities? DS was allowed to sign up for one activity - and difficult child signed up for a different activity. Staying at home? Each child was given something different to do....maybe one could play a computer game while one watched a video. And if they were going to play together it was closely supervised and for a limited amount of time. Yes - it is a difficult way to live....but we felt that we had no choice. [/QUOTE]
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