Hi Beth,
I just want to say first off congratulations on being willing to take care of yourself and your girls while you live with the effects of alcoholism in your family. Al Anon is a great place to start.
In general (my experience), the meeting is conducted in a round table fashion. I see mostly women at the meetings, many with alcoholic husbands, parents or children...sometimes all three!
There is a chairperson who reads announcements, the Twelve steps/Twelve traditions, the Serenity Prayer, and usually will ask each person to say their first name as they go around the table. Then the chairperson will pick a topic to read unless there is a "burning desire" from someone in the room who would like to choose a topic.
Often the chairperson will ask if there is anyone new, or if it's anyone's first meeting. If someone does speak up that it is their first meeting then likely the topic will be the "First Step", which is...
1. "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that our lives had become unmanageable."
"One Day At A Time" is a good literature book from Al Anon. I read "Courage To Change" and often the topic will be chosen from one of these 2 books.
If it is a First Step meeting the topic could include all of the readings that pertain to the First Step. Each person at the table may read a full page or part of a page and then comment on what they read and how it applies to their lives. If you don't want to comment you don't have to...
Sometimes there are tears sometimes laughter...likely you will hear someone speak of a situation that very much resembles your own. It's amazing how many of us effected by alcoholism are living parallel lives. The characters are different but the story is often the same.
I hope you will find lots of compassion, understanding, care, and guidance as I have whenever I go to an Al Anon meeting.
Hugs and hang in there,
it gets better!
lovemysons