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What can you do once they are 18?????
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 546060" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there, hon, and I'm soooooooo sorry you are going through this. Right off the bat I recommend that you and your husband go to Narc-Anon or Al-Anon meetings to get real, hands on help and advice. They helped hub and I tremendously when our daughter was using.</p><p></p><p>Aren't these kids good at hiding their drug use? Our daughter started with pot at 12. When she got caught it was also her (coudh, cough) first time and she'd never do it again. Yay, right. She'd been doing it and more for a long time by then and continued onto very serious drugs, such as cocaine and meth. If your son is losing weight, he is probably on something that kills your appetite. Many k ids also abuse stimulants for ADHD...they cut them in a pillcrusher and snort them either alone or with other drugs for a high. Then they need narcotic drugs in order to sleep. The kids fall apart fast and drinking almost always goes along with drugs.</p><p></p><p>In daughters 18th year, we had seen the police at our door one too many times. We had two younger kids who were petrified every time they stopped by and also by Daughter's behavior. We made her leave. She was very lucky to have an older, straight-arrow brother who took her in, but he threw the rule book at her and she knew if she broke even one rule, he'd kick her out without the guilt that we felt. She did stop, but it took tough love. </p><p></p><p>The only things you can do once they are eighteen are:</p><p></p><p>1/Tell them they either get into rehab or you are giving them notice to leave</p><p></p><p>2/Make sure they know you are there for them if they have a change of heart and want help, if they do end up leaving.</p><p></p><p>3/Stop giving them money, your car, other help.</p><p></p><p>4/Start detaching and going to meetings that will help yourself. </p><p></p><p>He will stop when he wants to stop. Nothing you say to him or do for him will make him stop unless he is ready.</p><p></p><p>(((Hugs))). Again, so sorry that this is happening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 546060, member: 1550"] Hi there, hon, and I'm soooooooo sorry you are going through this. Right off the bat I recommend that you and your husband go to Narc-Anon or Al-Anon meetings to get real, hands on help and advice. They helped hub and I tremendously when our daughter was using. Aren't these kids good at hiding their drug use? Our daughter started with pot at 12. When she got caught it was also her (coudh, cough) first time and she'd never do it again. Yay, right. She'd been doing it and more for a long time by then and continued onto very serious drugs, such as cocaine and meth. If your son is losing weight, he is probably on something that kills your appetite. Many k ids also abuse stimulants for ADHD...they cut them in a pillcrusher and snort them either alone or with other drugs for a high. Then they need narcotic drugs in order to sleep. The kids fall apart fast and drinking almost always goes along with drugs. In daughters 18th year, we had seen the police at our door one too many times. We had two younger kids who were petrified every time they stopped by and also by Daughter's behavior. We made her leave. She was very lucky to have an older, straight-arrow brother who took her in, but he threw the rule book at her and she knew if she broke even one rule, he'd kick her out without the guilt that we felt. She did stop, but it took tough love. The only things you can do once they are eighteen are: 1/Tell them they either get into rehab or you are giving them notice to leave 2/Make sure they know you are there for them if they have a change of heart and want help, if they do end up leaving. 3/Stop giving them money, your car, other help. 4/Start detaching and going to meetings that will help yourself. He will stop when he wants to stop. Nothing you say to him or do for him will make him stop unless he is ready. (((Hugs))). Again, so sorry that this is happening. [/QUOTE]
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