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What can you do once they are 18?????
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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 546108" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Hello and welcome. You have gotten some good advise. I find some peace at Families Anon. I could not get on at other 12 step meetings, but this one works for me. We have tried and failed 2 RTCs. However last week a counselor looked me in the face, leaned forward and said, "Nothing you have tried has been a failure. It is all a process of learning for you and your daughter. It takes years and years for most kids to get out of this cycle of drugs/addiction and relapse." I say do all you can to get him treatment-which isn't much at this point. I do agree with the professional interventionist. I like the book "Love First" that speaks of intervention. They also have a website-http://lovefirst.net/wpt/</p><p></p><p>I recommend that you go to a group for support or a counselor. You do have power over you and you will need support through this. You will need to work together and talk this through or it will tear your family up. It is a family illness-not because you are causing his problem, but because their behaviors put us in abnormal situations where we develop some coping mechanism that are not healthy for us or them and what we need to do is counter intuitive and not natural. I have also learned a lot from reading Melody Beauty's books on codependence. I do take issue with some of it-but no book is a cure all. </p><p></p><p>The bottom line is you cannot make anybody do anything and your boy is ill. We naturally want to help our sick kids. Drug addiction is an illness that is very difficult to get a handle on. I would try anything you can afford or have access to-then take care of you during all of this. Keep us posted</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 546108, member: 11001"] Hello and welcome. You have gotten some good advise. I find some peace at Families Anon. I could not get on at other 12 step meetings, but this one works for me. We have tried and failed 2 RTCs. However last week a counselor looked me in the face, leaned forward and said, "Nothing you have tried has been a failure. It is all a process of learning for you and your daughter. It takes years and years for most kids to get out of this cycle of drugs/addiction and relapse." I say do all you can to get him treatment-which isn't much at this point. I do agree with the professional interventionist. I like the book "Love First" that speaks of intervention. They also have a website-http://lovefirst.net/wpt/ I recommend that you go to a group for support or a counselor. You do have power over you and you will need support through this. You will need to work together and talk this through or it will tear your family up. It is a family illness-not because you are causing his problem, but because their behaviors put us in abnormal situations where we develop some coping mechanism that are not healthy for us or them and what we need to do is counter intuitive and not natural. I have also learned a lot from reading Melody Beauty's books on codependence. I do take issue with some of it-but no book is a cure all. The bottom line is you cannot make anybody do anything and your boy is ill. We naturally want to help our sick kids. Drug addiction is an illness that is very difficult to get a handle on. I would try anything you can afford or have access to-then take care of you during all of this. Keep us posted [/QUOTE]
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