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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 441525" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">We're fairly certain this has been an ongoing issue with father in law. Last year when we saw him in August he looked thinner and just old. I had commented then that to me his complexion looked sallow - pale and pasty. His legs were retaining fluid which mother in law attributed to the long car drive from FL to NY. He's always been a heavy drinker, we're talking almost a liter a day of gin or some other alcohol, so when we were told he had jaundice, that in and of itself was no surprise - think liver damage. It's obvious, in retrospect, that something was going on then.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Also, about a month ago, he sent H's sister a sheet with all his banking info and other personal accounting/affairs information, will, etc., so he obviously knew something was up. When she asked him he stated that he felt it was time for her to have the nitty gritty details as he is getting up in age (late 70's). She didn't think about it too much at the time and put the papers in a safe place. Now she gets it.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">If something has been going on for a year or so (who knows?), based on what we've all read, it doesn't look good. H and I are worried about his mom in particular as mentally she's not always stable and has severe diabetes. I cannot imagine her living alone in FL without father in law - he did all the business stuff and she basically kept house and did some volunteer work locally. She had breast cancer a little over a year ago and is recovered but has never been quite the same since. I don't know what will happen once father in law is passed, where she will go, who she will move near, etc. I asked sister in law this morning about that and I think I heard her shudder, said she wasn't ready to even think about any of that. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">For now, we're all just taking it day by day as the new info filters in from mother in law. Hopefully, H will get it straight so he passes on viable information. Of course, mother in law will only dole out information as she sees fit and they have a history of being very tight-lipped about things. That old person thing not wanting to burden or worry the children...as well as feeling they need to remain independent and not admit they are scared sh&tless. Ah well, no comment as I wonder how I'll be at that age. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Thank you for the prayers and info. Much appreciated.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 441525, member: 2211"] [COLOR=#000080][SIZE=2]We're fairly certain this has been an ongoing issue with father in law. Last year when we saw him in August he looked thinner and just old. I had commented then that to me his complexion looked sallow - pale and pasty. His legs were retaining fluid which mother in law attributed to the long car drive from FL to NY. He's always been a heavy drinker, we're talking almost a liter a day of gin or some other alcohol, so when we were told he had jaundice, that in and of itself was no surprise - think liver damage. It's obvious, in retrospect, that something was going on then. Also, about a month ago, he sent H's sister a sheet with all his banking info and other personal accounting/affairs information, will, etc., so he obviously knew something was up. When she asked him he stated that he felt it was time for her to have the nitty gritty details as he is getting up in age (late 70's). She didn't think about it too much at the time and put the papers in a safe place. Now she gets it. If something has been going on for a year or so (who knows?), based on what we've all read, it doesn't look good. H and I are worried about his mom in particular as mentally she's not always stable and has severe diabetes. I cannot imagine her living alone in FL without father in law - he did all the business stuff and she basically kept house and did some volunteer work locally. She had breast cancer a little over a year ago and is recovered but has never been quite the same since. I don't know what will happen once father in law is passed, where she will go, who she will move near, etc. I asked sister in law this morning about that and I think I heard her shudder, said she wasn't ready to even think about any of that. For now, we're all just taking it day by day as the new info filters in from mother in law. Hopefully, H will get it straight so he passes on viable information. Of course, mother in law will only dole out information as she sees fit and they have a history of being very tight-lipped about things. That old person thing not wanting to burden or worry the children...as well as feeling they need to remain independent and not admit they are scared sh&tless. Ah well, no comment as I wonder how I'll be at that age. Thank you for the prayers and info. Much appreciated.[/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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