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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 128694"><p>How do you offer advice when it is not asked?</p><p>Such as offering advice to a new college student.</p><p> </p><p>Reflecting on myself I see:</p><p> </p><p>If advice, whether asked for or not has come with the beginning statement...</p><p>I would...</p><p>You should..</p><p>I become defensive, and depending on the person or situation, I may even go the direct opposite.</p><p>The best advice in my life has come in the form of simple statements that were made. </p><p>I have been thinking about this, and many people I ask laugh and tell me that is a silly question.</p><p>Personally, I realize that the best advice I received I didn't even know I was getting. And whether I was to young and didn't understand, or whether I just disregarded....It wasn't until I lived those life experiences that I could truly understand. I had to get there first.</p><p>I do agree that when a person asks for advice, or an opinion, they already have a sense of what needs to be done. Either looking for permission, or just another prospective.</p><p>This is a very hard question. Asking me because I am a parent vs an adult that is not a parent...heck - I can't advise my own adult son. I can however be a role model and hope he can act on the morals and values he has been exposed to.</p><p> </p><p>any more thoughts?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 128694"] How do you offer advice when it is not asked? Such as offering advice to a new college student. Reflecting on myself I see: If advice, whether asked for or not has come with the beginning statement... I would... You should.. I become defensive, and depending on the person or situation, I may even go the direct opposite. The best advice in my life has come in the form of simple statements that were made. I have been thinking about this, and many people I ask laugh and tell me that is a silly question. Personally, I realize that the best advice I received I didn't even know I was getting. And whether I was to young and didn't understand, or whether I just disregarded....It wasn't until I lived those life experiences that I could truly understand. I had to get there first. I do agree that when a person asks for advice, or an opinion, they already have a sense of what needs to be done. Either looking for permission, or just another prospective. This is a very hard question. Asking me because I am a parent vs an adult that is not a parent...heck - I can't advise my own adult son. I can however be a role model and hope he can act on the morals and values he has been exposed to. any more thoughts? [/QUOTE]
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