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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 165356" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>There's honesty, there's need to know, and there's privacy for difficult child and other family members.</p><p> </p><p>thank you's been out of the home 8 years now. I never thought it would be for so long but from day 1, if people asked it was simply that he was going to a boarding school in the city. When summer rolled around, we explained it was a year-round school. </p><p> </p><p>That's not a lie at all. Not full disclosure but - thank you has the right to privacy and quite frankly it's just not the community's business.</p><p> </p><p>I don't feel compelled to even quantify the school - medical or therapeutic or whatever. It's just school.</p><p> </p><p>I think for my other kids, this was really the very best solution because as they got older and entered school, there were questions about where thank you was. I don't want them to feel ashamed or embarrassed (anymore than they already are, unfortunately). This explanation saved them from having to explain anything.</p><p> </p><p>The neighbors who witnessed the multiple police and ambulance calls? They figured it out. Family? Just a simple up front explanation - due to safety issues, thank you has had to be placed in Residential Treatment Center (RTC), period. I should say that we aren't near any of our family and don't do big family gatherings so it really hasn't been an issue. I can also say that no one in our extended family has an inkling of what really went on here during the bad old days. I'm not hiding it but... I'm just a private person and they simply do not need to know. </p><p> </p><p>Follow your heart but please do remember that you owe absolutely no one any explanation and you do have the right to protect your daughter's privacy as well as difficult child's.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 165356, member: 8"] There's honesty, there's need to know, and there's privacy for difficult child and other family members. thank you's been out of the home 8 years now. I never thought it would be for so long but from day 1, if people asked it was simply that he was going to a boarding school in the city. When summer rolled around, we explained it was a year-round school. That's not a lie at all. Not full disclosure but - thank you has the right to privacy and quite frankly it's just not the community's business. I don't feel compelled to even quantify the school - medical or therapeutic or whatever. It's just school. I think for my other kids, this was really the very best solution because as they got older and entered school, there were questions about where thank you was. I don't want them to feel ashamed or embarrassed (anymore than they already are, unfortunately). This explanation saved them from having to explain anything. The neighbors who witnessed the multiple police and ambulance calls? They figured it out. Family? Just a simple up front explanation - due to safety issues, thank you has had to be placed in Residential Treatment Center (RTC), period. I should say that we aren't near any of our family and don't do big family gatherings so it really hasn't been an issue. I can also say that no one in our extended family has an inkling of what really went on here during the bad old days. I'm not hiding it but... I'm just a private person and they simply do not need to know. Follow your heart but please do remember that you owe absolutely no one any explanation and you do have the right to protect your daughter's privacy as well as difficult child's. [/QUOTE]
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