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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 165392" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>We used to be the family members that did all of the gatherings, as well. Luckily, the economy we were in six years ago allowed us to move away from the home and neighborhood where we were when L and M were causing so much trouble. It also transitioned M into a new school first year of high school. L had dropped out by that time, and had not lived with us, in any case. </p><p></p><p>It was really hard for me at first, because I don't work and I didn't know anyone. Then M fell totally apart within a few months and was arrested and out of the house, yada yada, yada. But eventually we met people, and we have new friends, and still some of the old ones. The new friends would ask about M, and I'd say "He hates us and has his head up his hoo-haw right now, but he's trying to pull his act together."</p><p></p><p>I know this is really hard, especially when you enjoyed having people in your home. If moving is out of the question, I think that repainting, remodeling, changing the purpose of that area of the house is a really good idea. </p><p>The memories of what happened there will fade more quickly, and there can be new memories of new experiences.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure what part of the country you are in, but when the real estate market improves, and if you can afford it, it really does help to have a different home to make different memories in. You <em>never</em> forget what happened, but it is easier when it's not staring you in the face every day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 165392, member: 99"] We used to be the family members that did all of the gatherings, as well. Luckily, the economy we were in six years ago allowed us to move away from the home and neighborhood where we were when L and M were causing so much trouble. It also transitioned M into a new school first year of high school. L had dropped out by that time, and had not lived with us, in any case. It was really hard for me at first, because I don't work and I didn't know anyone. Then M fell totally apart within a few months and was arrested and out of the house, yada yada, yada. But eventually we met people, and we have new friends, and still some of the old ones. The new friends would ask about M, and I'd say "He hates us and has his head up his hoo-haw right now, but he's trying to pull his act together." I know this is really hard, especially when you enjoyed having people in your home. If moving is out of the question, I think that repainting, remodeling, changing the purpose of that area of the house is a really good idea. The memories of what happened there will fade more quickly, and there can be new memories of new experiences. I'm not sure what part of the country you are in, but when the real estate market improves, and if you can afford it, it really does help to have a different home to make different memories in. You [i]never[/i] forget what happened, but it is easier when it's not staring you in the face every day. [/QUOTE]
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