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What do I do now? Son problems!
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<blockquote data-quote="gsingjane" data-source="post: 585099" data-attributes="member: 15986"><p>Welcome Glinda, I'm a bit of a newbie here myself. Read and treasure the responses you get here (I have read and re-read everything people take the time and trouble to write to me.) The comment about "if alcohol is causing problems, there is an alcohol problem" rings very true. Someone does not have to be falling down, drunk to pieces, every single minute, to have a drinking problem. Driving while drunk, crashing the car when drunk, getting into fights when drunk... all these are not things that a person with a normal relationship with alcohol does. That is why it's an excellent suggestion for you to perhaps seek out an Al-Anon group, and to start getting educated about alcoholism.</p><p></p><p>Believe me I hear your heartsickness about how you raised your child and whether you are responsible for his conduct. Like you, I have three other children who are basically okay, and it still tears at my heart that I have one evil difficult child (his problem is different from your son's, he is a compulsive thief and liar). But you and I are lucky because we can look at those other three children and see, well, we made the mistakes we made, but it's not like we treated our difficult child completely differently than we treated our other three. You can see from looking at the other children that it was almost certainly not something you did, or didn't do, that caused your son to turn out like this. If you had four kids = four big messes, then maybe it might be another story (maybe still not then) but you don't.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, sister. We are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gsingjane, post: 585099, member: 15986"] Welcome Glinda, I'm a bit of a newbie here myself. Read and treasure the responses you get here (I have read and re-read everything people take the time and trouble to write to me.) The comment about "if alcohol is causing problems, there is an alcohol problem" rings very true. Someone does not have to be falling down, drunk to pieces, every single minute, to have a drinking problem. Driving while drunk, crashing the car when drunk, getting into fights when drunk... all these are not things that a person with a normal relationship with alcohol does. That is why it's an excellent suggestion for you to perhaps seek out an Al-Anon group, and to start getting educated about alcoholism. Believe me I hear your heartsickness about how you raised your child and whether you are responsible for his conduct. Like you, I have three other children who are basically okay, and it still tears at my heart that I have one evil difficult child (his problem is different from your son's, he is a compulsive thief and liar). But you and I are lucky because we can look at those other three children and see, well, we made the mistakes we made, but it's not like we treated our difficult child completely differently than we treated our other three. You can see from looking at the other children that it was almost certainly not something you did, or didn't do, that caused your son to turn out like this. If you had four kids = four big messes, then maybe it might be another story (maybe still not then) but you don't. Hang in there, sister. We are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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