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What do I do now? Son problems!
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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 585100" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>My mother blames herself for the way I turned out. No matter how many times I try to tell her that without her support growing up I wouldn't have survived, let alone had any kind of life.</p><p></p><p>Children are the sum total of the genetics behind them. In my case those genetics include bipolar and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). There's nothing more my mother could've done to change things, let alone 'fix' me. My mother is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), so's my late maternal grandfather ad a maternal uncle. </p><p></p><p>If it wasn't for her knowing instinctively that I was "another one of those" I wouldn't be where I am today. She blames the fact that i had to go on disability on her parenting when it was my trying to ignore my bipolar until it couldn't be ignored any more.</p><p></p><p>I, on the other hand, feel guilty for the hell I put my parent's, especially my mother, through in my teens when the bipolar first manifested. </p><p></p><p>That's as foolish as mum blaming herself. Neither one of us could help it.</p><p></p><p>ALL parents make what they realize in hindsight to be mistakes, but, to quote someone, "I did the best I could with what I knew, and when I knew more, I did better." </p><p></p><p>(If someone knows the originator of that quote, please clue me in. That sort of thing drives me bonkers.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 585100, member: 1963"] My mother blames herself for the way I turned out. No matter how many times I try to tell her that without her support growing up I wouldn't have survived, let alone had any kind of life. Children are the sum total of the genetics behind them. In my case those genetics include bipolar and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). There's nothing more my mother could've done to change things, let alone 'fix' me. My mother is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), so's my late maternal grandfather ad a maternal uncle. If it wasn't for her knowing instinctively that I was "another one of those" I wouldn't be where I am today. She blames the fact that i had to go on disability on her parenting when it was my trying to ignore my bipolar until it couldn't be ignored any more. I, on the other hand, feel guilty for the hell I put my parent's, especially my mother, through in my teens when the bipolar first manifested. That's as foolish as mum blaming herself. Neither one of us could help it. ALL parents make what they realize in hindsight to be mistakes, but, to quote someone, "I did the best I could with what I knew, and when I knew more, I did better." (If someone knows the originator of that quote, please clue me in. That sort of thing drives me bonkers.) [/QUOTE]
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