This is my first post! I am so glad that I found this site. And after reading several posts and hearing all of the wonderful advice that has been given out, I decided to plead my case!
My difficult child son will be 4 in two weeks, and I don't know if he has a "problem"(for lack of a better word) or not. He will be very defiant if you try to get him to do something he doesn't want to do. He will yell loudly and scream, and if you try to punish him it only escalates. He kicks,screams, punches, knocks things down, etc. I work with children and adults with special needs, and am very proficient in behavior management, yet nothing works with him. He is like a light switch when he is turned on it is nasty(your reaction is wow that is an angry child), and then just like that he can turn off and be this sweet little boy who is soo loving and caring.
The real stumper for me is that he does not display that anger at preschool or his babysitter's house or when he is with other people. It is generally only with his father and I when we are trying to get him to do things he doesn't want to do or telling him no.
He is really rough at times with his sister, pushing her, biting her. But he can be very apologetic and knows that it is wrong. When he gets angy he yells, then screams, then throws things, then hits walls, he talks back, says he is going to shoot me and has called me a "f***er". But then there are times when he is a sweet angel for days, recently he even went about 3 months without a huge meltdown, and then "boom" they have started back up again!!
I am going to meet with his pediatrician tomorrow. Is it possible for him to have a diagnosis with these behaviors that we see that he does not do at pre-school and other places?
FYI he was a colicky baby and until the last 5-6 months was a horrible sleeper, had a lot of night terrors. Also, if he falls asleep in the car and we wake him up he loses it,and we don't know what to do!!
Any input would be greatly appreciated!!!! Lastly, what does everyone think of brainmapping? That was recommended to us!! I just don't know if I could feel comfortable knowing that my little guy would have this diagnosis and at the same time, lays down in bed and tells me how much he loves me and that I am the best mommy ever!(which I need to hear after the days with him!)
Thanks for reading!! And the sage advice!!!!
Joelle
My difficult child son will be 4 in two weeks, and I don't know if he has a "problem"(for lack of a better word) or not. He will be very defiant if you try to get him to do something he doesn't want to do. He will yell loudly and scream, and if you try to punish him it only escalates. He kicks,screams, punches, knocks things down, etc. I work with children and adults with special needs, and am very proficient in behavior management, yet nothing works with him. He is like a light switch when he is turned on it is nasty(your reaction is wow that is an angry child), and then just like that he can turn off and be this sweet little boy who is soo loving and caring.
The real stumper for me is that he does not display that anger at preschool or his babysitter's house or when he is with other people. It is generally only with his father and I when we are trying to get him to do things he doesn't want to do or telling him no.
He is really rough at times with his sister, pushing her, biting her. But he can be very apologetic and knows that it is wrong. When he gets angy he yells, then screams, then throws things, then hits walls, he talks back, says he is going to shoot me and has called me a "f***er". But then there are times when he is a sweet angel for days, recently he even went about 3 months without a huge meltdown, and then "boom" they have started back up again!!
I am going to meet with his pediatrician tomorrow. Is it possible for him to have a diagnosis with these behaviors that we see that he does not do at pre-school and other places?
FYI he was a colicky baby and until the last 5-6 months was a horrible sleeper, had a lot of night terrors. Also, if he falls asleep in the car and we wake him up he loses it,and we don't know what to do!!
Any input would be greatly appreciated!!!! Lastly, what does everyone think of brainmapping? That was recommended to us!! I just don't know if I could feel comfortable knowing that my little guy would have this diagnosis and at the same time, lays down in bed and tells me how much he loves me and that I am the best mommy ever!(which I need to hear after the days with him!)
Thanks for reading!! And the sage advice!!!!
Joelle