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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 159235" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Here's what we do- it might not be the right answer for you. First, if possible, redirect it to something outside. difficult child has spent a lot of time outside hitting trees with a hammer. This is no problem- not good for the trees, I'm sure, but there are worse things. Second, try to keep it non-destructive in the house- this rarely works- not really raging if it does. Thirdly- he can go to his room and if he destroys whatever, I ignore it at the time. Whatever doors or trim come off, stay off. I would not replace the difficult child's door for a long time- we have been there done that. We currently have holes in the walls- I can't afford to have them repaired. We have to live with them. The natural consequences are much more than that- just wait until her friends or someone she wants to impress comes over. That is the real natural consequence. If she is destroying something of yours personally- draw the line- that is basket A in my book. (Really, the house is too in a way but when he's raging it is a little late to bring that up.)</p><p></p><p>So- that is where we are- keep in mind, I'm dealing with a 13yo boy, not a little girl.</p><p></p><p>PS- I did not remove anything from his room- if he destroyed it, he lived with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 159235, member: 3699"] Here's what we do- it might not be the right answer for you. First, if possible, redirect it to something outside. difficult child has spent a lot of time outside hitting trees with a hammer. This is no problem- not good for the trees, I'm sure, but there are worse things. Second, try to keep it non-destructive in the house- this rarely works- not really raging if it does. Thirdly- he can go to his room and if he destroys whatever, I ignore it at the time. Whatever doors or trim come off, stay off. I would not replace the difficult child's door for a long time- we have been there done that. We currently have holes in the walls- I can't afford to have them repaired. We have to live with them. The natural consequences are much more than that- just wait until her friends or someone she wants to impress comes over. That is the real natural consequence. If she is destroying something of yours personally- draw the line- that is basket A in my book. (Really, the house is too in a way but when he's raging it is a little late to bring that up.) So- that is where we are- keep in mind, I'm dealing with a 13yo boy, not a little girl. PS- I did not remove anything from his room- if he destroyed it, he lived with it. [/QUOTE]
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