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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 380757" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Time at home while suspended should be hard labor. If wife is home but won't be able to make him behave, then you may have to take him with-you or stay home and make him work hard. If nothing else, have him dig a hole in the back yard. Tell him how big and how deep. Then he can fill it in and dig another. Won't be great if you are landscaped (unless you want to plant a tree or large shrub there, or put in a pond - if you do want something like that, this is the PERFECT time to start. NOT NOT NOT kidding. Learned this from an excellent therapist and again from a good psychiatric hospital.) but it may be a sacrifice you want to make. </p><p> </p><p>He should have no access to anything fun. If you want him to clean his room, and there is enough light from the windows, consider throwing the breaker for his room. Remove any mp3 players and battery operated electronic things because he will use those as distractions. </p><p> </p><p>If you have a sibling or friend who does landscaping or other hard physical labor, consider asking if they will take your difficult child with them and put him to work. This is all designed to make suspension as unenjoyable as possible AND to help him learn that it isn't something he wants to do. You can also try making him spend the time sitting at the table, straight up, hands flat on the table, with NOTHING to do and not allowed to speak. in my humble opinion this one is harder to make happen, because it is hard to keep them from talking, falling asleep, etc... I had an easier time keeping mine busy rahter than keeping him still, but it depends on the difficult child. Some in school suspension programs use the still method.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 380757, member: 1233"] Time at home while suspended should be hard labor. If wife is home but won't be able to make him behave, then you may have to take him with-you or stay home and make him work hard. If nothing else, have him dig a hole in the back yard. Tell him how big and how deep. Then he can fill it in and dig another. Won't be great if you are landscaped (unless you want to plant a tree or large shrub there, or put in a pond - if you do want something like that, this is the PERFECT time to start. NOT NOT NOT kidding. Learned this from an excellent therapist and again from a good psychiatric hospital.) but it may be a sacrifice you want to make. He should have no access to anything fun. If you want him to clean his room, and there is enough light from the windows, consider throwing the breaker for his room. Remove any mp3 players and battery operated electronic things because he will use those as distractions. If you have a sibling or friend who does landscaping or other hard physical labor, consider asking if they will take your difficult child with them and put him to work. This is all designed to make suspension as unenjoyable as possible AND to help him learn that it isn't something he wants to do. You can also try making him spend the time sitting at the table, straight up, hands flat on the table, with NOTHING to do and not allowed to speak. in my humble opinion this one is harder to make happen, because it is hard to keep them from talking, falling asleep, etc... I had an easier time keeping mine busy rahter than keeping him still, but it depends on the difficult child. Some in school suspension programs use the still method. [/QUOTE]
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