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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 498071" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Your absolutely right. I have expressed that concern more than once. Based on my personal experiences and, unfortunately shared personal experiences with a minimum of twenty difficult child's who have been in jail or prison (yeah, difficult child#1's friends) the teens see the system as "them vs. us" during their incarceration. I have not known a single one who thought "gee I messed up and need to really respect the law and the CO's and the PO's. Truly, not 1. I honestly tried my best to not be advesarial. And yes you are right as a juvie I did not deal with prison or blatant liars etc. There is a difference in our experiences. on the other hand I felt I had no choice but to become assertive after the brain surgery and the blankin' DA who recommended to the Court that difficult child go to prison for having a handful of pills in his unoccupied car when he was 18.</p><p></p><p>As you may recall (can't remember if you were in the family then or not, sorry) I prevailed in Court. Word spread in our community. The easy child families found it a topic of conversation. The difficult child's still talk about it amongst themselves. "Boy, difficult child's 'Mama' really told them!" Not exactly the reaction I hoped for, lol.</p><p>So....because your son is so young, because he has been away during very formative years, because he is not exactly the kid you last lived with etc. I'm concerned that instead of learning or focusing on "My Mom loves me enough to work hard for me" he could very easily be absorbing "My Mom knows that these people are jerks and can't be trusted". I won't mention it again, I promise. My very very sincere hope is that he can overcome the abnormal environment he has lived in for the past year plus and blend back into your family unit. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 498071, member: 35"] Your absolutely right. I have expressed that concern more than once. Based on my personal experiences and, unfortunately shared personal experiences with a minimum of twenty difficult child's who have been in jail or prison (yeah, difficult child#1's friends) the teens see the system as "them vs. us" during their incarceration. I have not known a single one who thought "gee I messed up and need to really respect the law and the CO's and the PO's. Truly, not 1. I honestly tried my best to not be advesarial. And yes you are right as a juvie I did not deal with prison or blatant liars etc. There is a difference in our experiences. on the other hand I felt I had no choice but to become assertive after the brain surgery and the blankin' DA who recommended to the Court that difficult child go to prison for having a handful of pills in his unoccupied car when he was 18. As you may recall (can't remember if you were in the family then or not, sorry) I prevailed in Court. Word spread in our community. The easy child families found it a topic of conversation. The difficult child's still talk about it amongst themselves. "Boy, difficult child's 'Mama' really told them!" Not exactly the reaction I hoped for, lol. So....because your son is so young, because he has been away during very formative years, because he is not exactly the kid you last lived with etc. I'm concerned that instead of learning or focusing on "My Mom loves me enough to work hard for me" he could very easily be absorbing "My Mom knows that these people are jerks and can't be trusted". I won't mention it again, I promise. My very very sincere hope is that he can overcome the abnormal environment he has lived in for the past year plus and blend back into your family unit. DDD [/QUOTE]
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