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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 115774" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I started a new "policy" with difficult child this past summer because I agreed that he needed to be able to get some of his own money but I wasn't comfortable just handing over a regular allowance amount each week (he's too unpredictable right now) and I agree with you that I felt like some chores are expected because he lives here and shouldn't be paid for them. Plus, he got in legal trouble last spring and I'll be payiing off that restitution for a long time. On top of that, it appears he's cycling- mania/depression, so who knows what I might be dealing with from day to day and he's having to try different medications.</p><p></p><p>So, I wrote the basic expectations down- 1) go to bed on time, get up on time, come home on time (this is listed as "met schedule"), 2) do assigned homework daily, 3) behavior reports are mailed to me each week from each class in school- these are expected to be good, and 4) chores at home- whatever I might need him to do, with a starting point to be about 2 1/2 hours of chores a week- this could go up or down depending on if school is out for break, he had extra dr/therapist appts, etc</p><p></p><p>Then I explained to him that he won't get paid much for any of these because about 1/3 of what it might be worth goes to me to pay back restitution (LOL), about 1/3 is what I think he shouldn't get paid because it's expected, and the remaining 1/3 will be what I will pay him for each of these. I might not have explained that well, but I assigned a low dollar amount to each ($1/day for homework, $0.50/day for meeting schedule, $1/hour for chore time). It gets tallied up at the end of each week and he pockets that amount. The most he can earn in a typical week would be $19, in which case I give him a bonus and give him $20. This doesn't happen too often! He likes it and it has seemed to work well. It has helped him see that a little mistake is not a big deal, but several good days or several bad days in a week really can make a difference!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 115774, member: 3699"] I started a new "policy" with difficult child this past summer because I agreed that he needed to be able to get some of his own money but I wasn't comfortable just handing over a regular allowance amount each week (he's too unpredictable right now) and I agree with you that I felt like some chores are expected because he lives here and shouldn't be paid for them. Plus, he got in legal trouble last spring and I'll be payiing off that restitution for a long time. On top of that, it appears he's cycling- mania/depression, so who knows what I might be dealing with from day to day and he's having to try different medications. So, I wrote the basic expectations down- 1) go to bed on time, get up on time, come home on time (this is listed as "met schedule"), 2) do assigned homework daily, 3) behavior reports are mailed to me each week from each class in school- these are expected to be good, and 4) chores at home- whatever I might need him to do, with a starting point to be about 2 1/2 hours of chores a week- this could go up or down depending on if school is out for break, he had extra dr/therapist appts, etc Then I explained to him that he won't get paid much for any of these because about 1/3 of what it might be worth goes to me to pay back restitution (LOL), about 1/3 is what I think he shouldn't get paid because it's expected, and the remaining 1/3 will be what I will pay him for each of these. I might not have explained that well, but I assigned a low dollar amount to each ($1/day for homework, $0.50/day for meeting schedule, $1/hour for chore time). It gets tallied up at the end of each week and he pockets that amount. The most he can earn in a typical week would be $19, in which case I give him a bonus and give him $20. This doesn't happen too often! He likes it and it has seemed to work well. It has helped him see that a little mistake is not a big deal, but several good days or several bad days in a week really can make a difference! [/QUOTE]
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