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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 130044" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>At this point, I would say and do nothing.</p><p>You've already made it clear to McW that you're willing to help him choose the right path...get to rehab, a soberhouse, whatever supports he needs. He's clearly not ready to ask for your help to do that, for whatever reason.</p><p></p><p>So...I think you need to keep on working on detachment. Leave McW to his devices, and let wife handle things.</p><p></p><p>I think if McW were ready to get help, instead of saying, "maybe I need to...", he would be saying, "Please help me to..." I know it sounds like splitting hairs, but it's an important distinction. The second statment shows that McW is ready to take ownership of and responsibility for his issues, and to start doing something about them.</p><p></p><p>Until he gets to that point, any attempt at help from you will result in defiance from him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 130044, member: 3907"] At this point, I would say and do nothing. You've already made it clear to McW that you're willing to help him choose the right path...get to rehab, a soberhouse, whatever supports he needs. He's clearly not ready to ask for your help to do that, for whatever reason. So...I think you need to keep on working on detachment. Leave McW to his devices, and let wife handle things. I think if McW were ready to get help, instead of saying, "maybe I need to...", he would be saying, "Please help me to..." I know it sounds like splitting hairs, but it's an important distinction. The second statment shows that McW is ready to take ownership of and responsibility for his issues, and to start doing something about them. Until he gets to that point, any attempt at help from you will result in defiance from him. [/QUOTE]
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