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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 130116" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Mikey, I think you just might be on to something!</p><p> </p><p>The wife of one of my co-workers is a mental health specialist who works with teenagers. He said that his wife has stated that, to kids that age, status among their friends is EVERYTHING! And that to be successful in dealing with kids that age, you have to always remember to allow them to "save face". </p><p> </p><p>McWeedy KNOWS he needs to get his life back on track, he KNOWS that what he's doing is dangrous, and he KNOWS how desperately he needs help. With the stuff he's pulled lately, it's like he's almost <em>begging</em> to be <u>forced</u> to get help! But guys that age are all about "posturing" and looking good in front of their buddies - the macho strutting and chest thumping stuff. He sure doesn't want to <em>admit</em> how badly he needs help because his drugging and drinking buddies (and maybe he, himself) could perceive this as a weakness. And he sure doesn't want it to be YOUR idea that he get help! That sounds like he had a confrontation with daddy and daddy won! Daddy - 1, Kid - Zip. Daddy and Mommy(?) <u>made </u>him go in to treatment! They won - he lost! See where I'm going here?</p><p> </p><p>But if he is <u>ARRESTED?</u> If he goes to <u>JAIL?</u> It's <em>involuntary</em>, it's certainly not HIS idea, and all his buddies will perceive him as the big, bad dude! He will be removed from his substance-abusing friends, at least temporarily. He won't have free and easy access to drugs or alcohol, and he'll be relatively "safe" from the dangers he's putting himself in to now. He will have time to regroup, catch his breath, and maybe start over. He may even be FORCED into treatment ... but hey, it wasn't <em>his </em>idea! He was <em>forced</em> in to it!</p><p> </p><p>I know your family situation makes this very difficult, but letting him spend some time in jail just might be the only thing that really might make a difference here. Lord knows, you've tried everything else and it didn't work.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 130116, member: 1883"] Mikey, I think you just might be on to something! The wife of one of my co-workers is a mental health specialist who works with teenagers. He said that his wife has stated that, to kids that age, status among their friends is EVERYTHING! And that to be successful in dealing with kids that age, you have to always remember to allow them to "save face". McWeedy KNOWS he needs to get his life back on track, he KNOWS that what he's doing is dangrous, and he KNOWS how desperately he needs help. With the stuff he's pulled lately, it's like he's almost [I]begging[/I] to be [U]forced[/U] to get help! But guys that age are all about "posturing" and looking good in front of their buddies - the macho strutting and chest thumping stuff. He sure doesn't want to [I]admit[/I] how badly he needs help because his drugging and drinking buddies (and maybe he, himself) could perceive this as a weakness. And he sure doesn't want it to be YOUR idea that he get help! That sounds like he had a confrontation with daddy and daddy won! Daddy - 1, Kid - Zip. Daddy and Mommy(?) [U]made [/U]him go in to treatment! They won - he lost! See where I'm going here? But if he is [U]ARRESTED?[/U] If he goes to [U]JAIL?[/U] It's [I]involuntary[/I], it's certainly not HIS idea, and all his buddies will perceive him as the big, bad dude! He will be removed from his substance-abusing friends, at least temporarily. He won't have free and easy access to drugs or alcohol, and he'll be relatively "safe" from the dangers he's putting himself in to now. He will have time to regroup, catch his breath, and maybe start over. He may even be FORCED into treatment ... but hey, it wasn't [I]his [/I]idea! He was [I]forced[/I] in to it! I know your family situation makes this very difficult, but letting him spend some time in jail just might be the only thing that really might make a difference here. Lord knows, you've tried everything else and it didn't work. [/QUOTE]
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