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What do you think of what the counsellor suggests?
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 532705" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I agree with-most of the ideas. They will be hard to stick to but you can do it.</p><p>I understand your not wanting to fun a flop house. Especially when you have to sleep with-one eye open. I would moderate that plan ... if he wants to move home, it's got to be totally on your terms, and if that means he has to be in by 11 p.m. weeknights and 1 a.m. weekends, then so be it. We tell our easy child that if she's going to be too late, to stay overnight where ever she is, which helps keep her off the roads in the middle of the night when drunks are out, but also gives us a good night's sleep because we're not half asleep, waiting for the lights to be turned out. (Or on.) </p><p>I agree that difficult child should be allowed to communicate directly with-the school, unless you are considering helping him catch up with-his failed classes ... which means it takes time out of your schedule. The idea is to give you back your time, to give you back your normal life. So if he starts to fail and you panic and want to help him, you're not doing yourself any favors.</p><p></p><p>Think about what you can do and follow through on. Think about what will be most difficult and which things will keep you awake at night. </p><p>Think about what you want to be like and feel like 5 yrs from now and how to accomplish that.</p><p></p><p>Your counselor sounds great, actually. Even if you butt heads on occasion, it's better to have one who has constructive ideas than one who mumbles, "Mmmhmm" and doesn't do diddly squat.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 532705, member: 3419"] I agree with-most of the ideas. They will be hard to stick to but you can do it. I understand your not wanting to fun a flop house. Especially when you have to sleep with-one eye open. I would moderate that plan ... if he wants to move home, it's got to be totally on your terms, and if that means he has to be in by 11 p.m. weeknights and 1 a.m. weekends, then so be it. We tell our easy child that if she's going to be too late, to stay overnight where ever she is, which helps keep her off the roads in the middle of the night when drunks are out, but also gives us a good night's sleep because we're not half asleep, waiting for the lights to be turned out. (Or on.) I agree that difficult child should be allowed to communicate directly with-the school, unless you are considering helping him catch up with-his failed classes ... which means it takes time out of your schedule. The idea is to give you back your time, to give you back your normal life. So if he starts to fail and you panic and want to help him, you're not doing yourself any favors. Think about what you can do and follow through on. Think about what will be most difficult and which things will keep you awake at night. Think about what you want to be like and feel like 5 yrs from now and how to accomplish that. Your counselor sounds great, actually. Even if you butt heads on occasion, it's better to have one who has constructive ideas than one who mumbles, "Mmmhmm" and doesn't do diddly squat. [/QUOTE]
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