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What do you think of what the counsellor suggests?
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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 532738"><p>It seems that you and the counselor are at odds over the when difficult child can come home. I see the point of view of if he has these responsiblities then he should get the freedom. On the other hand, I know that I would never be able to sleep. If difficult child was coming home at 2 am then I'd be awake until he was quiet in his room probably about 3 am. If difficult child never came home that night I would just not get to sleep that night. If you are like me I can see how this would be a deal breaker. I also think its a mute point because he isn't going to be able to do all these rules on the first try. I also think its important that if he is refusing treatment and making your life miserable that he face the consequences. It is better to do this now then later when outside the family isn't going to as nice when he messes up. </p><p></p><p>I would also suggest making your definition of "<span style="color: #333333">Do NOT allow him to be disrespectful to us. There will be no swearing, no name calling, no bullying of me or sis, no breaking of rules." as detailed as possible. I know my difficult child 1 would push boundaries until he was right back to where he started from. Is sarcasm disrespectful? What if he goes to the store on the way home? Is that a change of plans? What if he goes to 2 stores? What if he just drops something off at a friends house but doesn't go in? Is teasing/pushing o.k.? How hard does the teasing hit have to be before it's not ok? You get the idea. Its exhausting for us, but we have some very set boundaries now. </span></p><p><span style="color: #333333"></span></p><p><span style="color: #333333">This is going to be hard. Good luck. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 532738"] It seems that you and the counselor are at odds over the when difficult child can come home. I see the point of view of if he has these responsiblities then he should get the freedom. On the other hand, I know that I would never be able to sleep. If difficult child was coming home at 2 am then I'd be awake until he was quiet in his room probably about 3 am. If difficult child never came home that night I would just not get to sleep that night. If you are like me I can see how this would be a deal breaker. I also think its a mute point because he isn't going to be able to do all these rules on the first try. I also think its important that if he is refusing treatment and making your life miserable that he face the consequences. It is better to do this now then later when outside the family isn't going to as nice when he messes up. I would also suggest making your definition of "[COLOR=#333333]Do NOT allow him to be disrespectful to us. There will be no swearing, no name calling, no bullying of me or sis, no breaking of rules." as detailed as possible. I know my difficult child 1 would push boundaries until he was right back to where he started from. Is sarcasm disrespectful? What if he goes to the store on the way home? Is that a change of plans? What if he goes to 2 stores? What if he just drops something off at a friends house but doesn't go in? Is teasing/pushing o.k.? How hard does the teasing hit have to be before it's not ok? You get the idea. Its exhausting for us, but we have some very set boundaries now. This is going to be hard. Good luck. [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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