I got a call from one of the dean's at difficult child's school today. Seems that difficult child went off on a teacher, yelling and cussing. The dean did try to put some positive in it and said that difficult child sent himself to the office and was calm and resptectful while there but he still has a 3 day suspension. When difficult child got home, he was subdued and gave me his side. According to difficult child, this teacher was "bugging" difficult child while he was trying to work and saying things like how difficult child had a bad rep last year, this year was probably going to be the same and he (teacher) wasn't going to put up with it. Basically things that he (in my opinion) shouldn't be saying. I don't remember exactly but the way difficult child described it was that this teacher was verbally beating difficult child down. I told difficult child that I wasn't calling him a liar but since I wasn't there, I don't know for sure what happened. BUT...if that IS what happened, while I understood why he lost his temper, that would be one of those situations where he needed to hold it together and THEN go tell the office what was said. Teachers are figures of authority and should be treated with respect but they are also human too and sometimes do/say things they shouldn't. When things like that happen, you need to report it and stay calm. difficult child said that he did tell the dean what the teacher said and that the dean said he would talk to the teacher. I've told husband what happened and we have decided to call the dean on Monday and find out the "full" story. If this is the case (without the typical difficult child twist on things) we want to ask for an adjustment in difficult child's punishment. Originally husband wanted to have the entire suspension cancelled but I'm against that. Assuming that's what happened, while I think the teacher was waaaaaaaay out of line and should be punished himself, difficult child still reacted in an understandable but unacceptable manner. My thinking is that they should knock a day or two off the suspension instead. While difficult child was right to get angry, it wasn't his place to put the teacher in his. Know what I mean?? husband is thinking this teacher just wanted difficult child out of his class and I can understand that given difficult child's less than stellar history of behavior and treatment of teachers. However, that doesn't give the guy the right to poke the bear as it were. He can groan to himself, roll his eyes at the thought of having difficult child for another semester but there is no reason to antagonize him or start something where nothing was started to begin with. Do you think it would be fair to ask for an adjustment if the story pans out? Obviously I want to stick up for difficult child if he was in the right but he still needs to learn or remember to respond in an acceptable manner.