Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
What do you think?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 597325" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>Sometimes in the knowing and the seeing, we can just have to let it be what it is---your daughter is an addict who is choosing to live a dangerous life with a dangerous man. If that little bit of money keeps you connected and allows the knowledge that this week, she is alive, if it keeps the connection open between you, then send it. I believe if I had to choose between knowing she is alive and in a dangerous situation, and not knowing she is alive and in a dangerous situation, I would have to choose the knowing. Sometimes we must do for those we love simply because we love them, not because it will change anything, not because it will "make" them better, but so just we know we have done what we chose to do--It is okay to resent sending the money, it is okay to resent her choices, it is okay to resent the guilt you feel (even though you have nothing at all to do with those choices.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 597325, member: 1436"] Sometimes in the knowing and the seeing, we can just have to let it be what it is---your daughter is an addict who is choosing to live a dangerous life with a dangerous man. If that little bit of money keeps you connected and allows the knowledge that this week, she is alive, if it keeps the connection open between you, then send it. I believe if I had to choose between knowing she is alive and in a dangerous situation, and not knowing she is alive and in a dangerous situation, I would have to choose the knowing. Sometimes we must do for those we love simply because we love them, not because it will change anything, not because it will "make" them better, but so just we know we have done what we chose to do--It is okay to resent sending the money, it is okay to resent her choices, it is okay to resent the guilt you feel (even though you have nothing at all to do with those choices.) [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
What do you think?
Top