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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 597837" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>You are right, Witz. husband and I are working hard to figure out the right thing to do. husband is totally committed to his belief that, as her father, he can bring her back. And they do have a special relationship. They are so much alike. One of difficult child's biggest betrayals of husband is that he asked her, for him, for her father, not to leave treatment.</p><p></p><p>But she did.</p><p></p><p>The other thing that happens between us as we deal with difficult child is that we play good cop/bad cop.</p><p></p><p>Thanks to all of you here on the site, I am feeling stronger and more positive just lately. When I look back at everything that has happened, I see that we have been through so many things that should have destroyed us ~ but we're still standing.</p><p></p><p>We will weather this, too.</p><p></p><p>All that shame work must have helped! :O)</p><p></p><p>Joel Osteen books were so helpful to me, too.</p><p></p><p>For now, we are (husband is) going to put that money in her account for difficult child. Her storage unit is paid for until the end of June. We are going to get in there somehow. (Still trying to locate that darned key.) When we do, we are going to take difficult child's pictures, her Christmas decorations, things like that, things that are irreplaceable, and that will mean so much to her if and when she comes out of this.</p><p></p><p>husband is fully committed to doing this. I think as much for difficult child as for himself.</p><p></p><p>And, again thanks to everyone here, we both realize it is about surviving this ourselves. We can't control anything difficult child does. But we can do our best for her without going overboard.</p><p></p><p>Can't believe we have come to this so clearly.</p><p></p><p>That would be thanks to all of you.</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much, every one of you, for listening, and for helping me work through this.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 597837, member: 1721"] You are right, Witz. husband and I are working hard to figure out the right thing to do. husband is totally committed to his belief that, as her father, he can bring her back. And they do have a special relationship. They are so much alike. One of difficult child's biggest betrayals of husband is that he asked her, for him, for her father, not to leave treatment. But she did. The other thing that happens between us as we deal with difficult child is that we play good cop/bad cop. Thanks to all of you here on the site, I am feeling stronger and more positive just lately. When I look back at everything that has happened, I see that we have been through so many things that should have destroyed us ~ but we're still standing. We will weather this, too. All that shame work must have helped! :O) Joel Osteen books were so helpful to me, too. For now, we are (husband is) going to put that money in her account for difficult child. Her storage unit is paid for until the end of June. We are going to get in there somehow. (Still trying to locate that darned key.) When we do, we are going to take difficult child's pictures, her Christmas decorations, things like that, things that are irreplaceable, and that will mean so much to her if and when she comes out of this. husband is fully committed to doing this. I think as much for difficult child as for himself. And, again thanks to everyone here, we both realize it is about surviving this ourselves. We can't control anything difficult child does. But we can do our best for her without going overboard. Can't believe we have come to this so clearly. That would be thanks to all of you. Thank you so much, every one of you, for listening, and for helping me work through this. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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