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<blockquote data-quote="ck1" data-source="post: 97958" data-attributes="member: 3767"><p>This is really good advice--everyone. Thank you!!! Today was the discharge meeting, he'll be home four weeks from today. He's being discharged after only 90 days, fastest that anyone's been through (at least with his therapist and the staff that we talked with). Not sure that's a good thing, but, it is what it is. I'm certain that it would not have been that fast if he hadn't spent the five weeks before that in the detention center.</p><p></p><p>You all confirmed my gut feelings but wasn't able to put it into words. The seroquil is treating the moods and that has to be stabilized first. In his current setting, he isn't showing ADHD symptoms, so there's no reason to treat it. We're going to have family-based therapy when he comes home and will continue working with a psychiatrist so if we need to treat the ADHD later, we will. I'm not sure why I didn't think to just tell my sister that before, but I will now.</p><p></p><p>You all have also confirmed my feelings about the music. Mainly that it's not worth a HUGE battle. The one thing that I've let get out of control is allowing him to walk around with his ipod and one earphone in. I really hate that, besides the fact that it's quite rude!! I told him today with his therapist present that that will no longer be tolerated. He can listen to his music in his room at a reasonable volume. In the car, he'll have to use headphones. This will be enforced (we actually did have that rule before but I wasn't always good about enforcing it).</p><p></p><p>KFLD: limiting the music in my house is the best I can do. I can't control him outside of the house and really, if that's as much as he listens to it, what harm would it really do??</p><p></p><p>Mikey: I think you are very right about finding a doctor we trust. I haven't been able to so far, but I'll keep trying. I also think that it isn't because of the music that my son started his three week drug use because he was listening to far before that, so in that sense, maybe it's not so bad.</p><p></p><p>MWM and Suz: That's probably right, the mood disorder will cause him more problems than the ADHD, so I'll worry about that later. Also, my difficult child is very aware of how he is feeling and how the medications work or don't work. He also doesn't give me a problem about taking them.</p><p></p><p>NOLA: it's funny that you would say that about the family communication because that's exactly what difficult child and husband say needs to be worked on. I came up with a plan for all of us to better be able to say what we're thinking, so hopefully that will create the open communication that we need. ha ha about the 'rebel without a cause'!! that's definitely not me, I'm way too conservative but I sometimes wish that I wasn't</p><p></p><p>jamrommic: I had never considered a bad reaction to medications. We haven't had that experience before, at least that I know of. It's possible that a lot of this happened over the summer because his dose of Adderall was too high, but he was also really depressed, so I just don't know. My son likes the same type of music as yours and says the same thing. We don't really hear the same thing and he says he really doesn't listen to the words that much, he just likes the beat (if that's what you call it even in rap music).</p><p></p><p>SF & DDD: thanks, too for your input. I really appreciate it! We are definitely going to talk with his current therapist. The hard part is, the rules that will be in place when he gets home are the same rules that have been in place for years!!! I didn't let him run around and do whatever he wanted, so I just don't know how we got where we are!!</p><p></p><p>GG: thanks for the information about your daughter. I do believe that's how my son views his music but I hadn't been thinking of it like that. Maybe I'll ask him to journal when he's listening to it to get a feel for how's he's feeling when he is listening to it???</p><p></p><p>Susiestar: I love your example about your roommate and will use that when the topic comes up with my sister and husband (since he hates the music too). I do not think that his choice of music is directly related to his behavior. He doesn't get into a lot of trouble but I'm going to watch his moods more closely.</p><p></p><p>I'm the baby of my family so I seem to get the most advice from the others, even when I don't ask for it. The funny thing is, they all come to me and ask for advice because they think I'm the most reasonable and logical!!! </p><p></p><p>by the way, SusieStar--is the name Gracie Lou Freebush from a movie? It sounds so familiar but I just can't think of which one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ck1, post: 97958, member: 3767"] This is really good advice--everyone. Thank you!!! Today was the discharge meeting, he'll be home four weeks from today. He's being discharged after only 90 days, fastest that anyone's been through (at least with his therapist and the staff that we talked with). Not sure that's a good thing, but, it is what it is. I'm certain that it would not have been that fast if he hadn't spent the five weeks before that in the detention center. You all confirmed my gut feelings but wasn't able to put it into words. The seroquil is treating the moods and that has to be stabilized first. In his current setting, he isn't showing ADHD symptoms, so there's no reason to treat it. We're going to have family-based therapy when he comes home and will continue working with a psychiatrist so if we need to treat the ADHD later, we will. I'm not sure why I didn't think to just tell my sister that before, but I will now. You all have also confirmed my feelings about the music. Mainly that it's not worth a HUGE battle. The one thing that I've let get out of control is allowing him to walk around with his ipod and one earphone in. I really hate that, besides the fact that it's quite rude!! I told him today with his therapist present that that will no longer be tolerated. He can listen to his music in his room at a reasonable volume. In the car, he'll have to use headphones. This will be enforced (we actually did have that rule before but I wasn't always good about enforcing it). KFLD: limiting the music in my house is the best I can do. I can't control him outside of the house and really, if that's as much as he listens to it, what harm would it really do?? Mikey: I think you are very right about finding a doctor we trust. I haven't been able to so far, but I'll keep trying. I also think that it isn't because of the music that my son started his three week drug use because he was listening to far before that, so in that sense, maybe it's not so bad. MWM and Suz: That's probably right, the mood disorder will cause him more problems than the ADHD, so I'll worry about that later. Also, my difficult child is very aware of how he is feeling and how the medications work or don't work. He also doesn't give me a problem about taking them. NOLA: it's funny that you would say that about the family communication because that's exactly what difficult child and husband say needs to be worked on. I came up with a plan for all of us to better be able to say what we're thinking, so hopefully that will create the open communication that we need. ha ha about the 'rebel without a cause'!! that's definitely not me, I'm way too conservative but I sometimes wish that I wasn't jamrommic: I had never considered a bad reaction to medications. We haven't had that experience before, at least that I know of. It's possible that a lot of this happened over the summer because his dose of Adderall was too high, but he was also really depressed, so I just don't know. My son likes the same type of music as yours and says the same thing. We don't really hear the same thing and he says he really doesn't listen to the words that much, he just likes the beat (if that's what you call it even in rap music). SF & DDD: thanks, too for your input. I really appreciate it! We are definitely going to talk with his current therapist. The hard part is, the rules that will be in place when he gets home are the same rules that have been in place for years!!! I didn't let him run around and do whatever he wanted, so I just don't know how we got where we are!! GG: thanks for the information about your daughter. I do believe that's how my son views his music but I hadn't been thinking of it like that. Maybe I'll ask him to journal when he's listening to it to get a feel for how's he's feeling when he is listening to it??? Susiestar: I love your example about your roommate and will use that when the topic comes up with my sister and husband (since he hates the music too). I do not think that his choice of music is directly related to his behavior. He doesn't get into a lot of trouble but I'm going to watch his moods more closely. I'm the baby of my family so I seem to get the most advice from the others, even when I don't ask for it. The funny thing is, they all come to me and ask for advice because they think I'm the most reasonable and logical!!! by the way, SusieStar--is the name Gracie Lou Freebush from a movie? It sounds so familiar but I just can't think of which one. [/QUOTE]
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