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What do you wish you had said to your child about drugs?
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<blockquote data-quote="detachingmother" data-source="post: 679746" data-attributes="member: 20063"><p>Yep. Hindsight kills me. I wish I knew then what I know now. Not that I am beating myself up over it anymore, as I feel I had no choice when oldest was younger. I, like many moms, was on my own, zero support, had to work sometimes two three jobs, with one job just to cover daycare. I was also only 20 myself when I gave birth to him and had no clue what I was doing...just trying to survive. In many ways, oldest Son did get the short end of the stick, when he really needed me there at home with him ALL the time. I've more than "made up for it," it many other ways I feel. When he's sober he acknowledges this and tells me this, but I know he still has resentment.</p><p></p><p>Hindsight, I would have made every effort, every sacrifice just to get him to the things he was interested in....Makes a major difference in kids lives. </p><p></p><p>So for those mom's who are wondering how important these things are...the answer is VERY IMPORTANT. anyway....</p><p></p><p>The "outs" for kids are so important. </p><p></p><p>Youngest does nothing to hurt his chances of succeeding. He does it on his own, because he learned self discipline by doing these things he loves. He does not watch TV, he doesn't have facebook, he took the big screen TV and PS4 his big "bad boy" brother gave him and put it in another room, so he won't even be tempted. He could even appear "addicted", but it's to the things that matter to him and are healthy for him, and these things keep him out of trouble. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Oh yes, I am worried somewhat that where youngest is going after high school will give him many other challenges...there's tons of drug addicted young people in the city he is planning on going to, and the pressure and competition is incredible .... an infestation as a matter of fact. :-( but, he will be going with the tools he needs to succeed. Will be up to him then...only I feel like he will be fine. </p><p></p><p>Oh and I should have added but it should go without saying that we have to lead by example...I could talk all day until I'm blue in the face, but if I did was I was talking against...ugh...that would obviously be bad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="detachingmother, post: 679746, member: 20063"] Yep. Hindsight kills me. I wish I knew then what I know now. Not that I am beating myself up over it anymore, as I feel I had no choice when oldest was younger. I, like many moms, was on my own, zero support, had to work sometimes two three jobs, with one job just to cover daycare. I was also only 20 myself when I gave birth to him and had no clue what I was doing...just trying to survive. In many ways, oldest Son did get the short end of the stick, when he really needed me there at home with him ALL the time. I've more than "made up for it," it many other ways I feel. When he's sober he acknowledges this and tells me this, but I know he still has resentment. Hindsight, I would have made every effort, every sacrifice just to get him to the things he was interested in....Makes a major difference in kids lives. So for those mom's who are wondering how important these things are...the answer is VERY IMPORTANT. anyway.... The "outs" for kids are so important. Youngest does nothing to hurt his chances of succeeding. He does it on his own, because he learned self discipline by doing these things he loves. He does not watch TV, he doesn't have facebook, he took the big screen TV and PS4 his big "bad boy" brother gave him and put it in another room, so he won't even be tempted. He could even appear "addicted", but it's to the things that matter to him and are healthy for him, and these things keep him out of trouble. :) Oh yes, I am worried somewhat that where youngest is going after high school will give him many other challenges...there's tons of drug addicted young people in the city he is planning on going to, and the pressure and competition is incredible .... an infestation as a matter of fact. :-( but, he will be going with the tools he needs to succeed. Will be up to him then...only I feel like he will be fine. Oh and I should have added but it should go without saying that we have to lead by example...I could talk all day until I'm blue in the face, but if I did was I was talking against...ugh...that would obviously be bad. [/QUOTE]
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