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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 745836" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Thank you SWOT. Since he has been gone this time (now going on 6 months) he has asked for nothing.</p><p>This is my son.</p><p>I think he does not want either conditions or to put in one iota of commitment. He wants to present himself here, without intention, without structure, negating any legitimate expectations on my part. Like he emerged from the womb, born adult.</p><p></p><p>All he wants to do is go around all day into the night with no expectations of himself, and none at all by others, of him. And that is his life. His wants are limited: caffeine, nicotine, marijuana, supplements, his cellphone to surf the net and minimal social interactions that present no pressure to him. That's it. </p><p></p><p>I find myself asking why, despite the fact it leads nowhere good. He was not this was at 18, even at 20 or 24. Is it his lifestyle or his psychology that his led him to spiral down to this, to such a minimal existence, and strive only to maintain it?</p><p></p><p>It is a moot point. Because I know I have no legitimate place to stand to critique this, to offer solutions or even to have a point of view. We are two adults.</p><p></p><p>I have to say that in the near 5 and a half years since my mother died I have lived an equally aimless existence, which I have been climbing out of.</p><p></p><p>I need to accord my son the same respect and space to climb out on his own terms.</p><p></p><p>And I need to devote my energies to my own life. I know this and I am doing it. Little by little so far. But I believe the velocity will be increasing this year. Substantially so.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 745836, member: 18958"] Thank you SWOT. Since he has been gone this time (now going on 6 months) he has asked for nothing. This is my son. I think he does not want either conditions or to put in one iota of commitment. He wants to present himself here, without intention, without structure, negating any legitimate expectations on my part. Like he emerged from the womb, born adult. All he wants to do is go around all day into the night with no expectations of himself, and none at all by others, of him. And that is his life. His wants are limited: caffeine, nicotine, marijuana, supplements, his cellphone to surf the net and minimal social interactions that present no pressure to him. That's it. I find myself asking why, despite the fact it leads nowhere good. He was not this was at 18, even at 20 or 24. Is it his lifestyle or his psychology that his led him to spiral down to this, to such a minimal existence, and strive only to maintain it? It is a moot point. Because I know I have no legitimate place to stand to critique this, to offer solutions or even to have a point of view. We are two adults. I have to say that in the near 5 and a half years since my mother died I have lived an equally aimless existence, which I have been climbing out of. I need to accord my son the same respect and space to climb out on his own terms. And I need to devote my energies to my own life. I know this and I am doing it. Little by little so far. But I believe the velocity will be increasing this year. Substantially so. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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