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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 409604" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We've found that family are often the last to "get it". The ones who love you most are often the ones who would rather believe you're nuts, or you're doing it wrong, than believe there is really a problem. They also feel a sense of ownership of you and WILL give advice far more than friends. I had to learn to accept this, just nod and smile. Then do it my way. Over time, exposure to our problems helps them get it. Then when they have problems with their kids and grandkids, they now call me and ask for ideas.</p><p></p><p>Family support is a two-edged sword. You get good and bad together. When you accept help from anybody, they feel it then gives them the right to have a say, and they exercise that right. So when you ask for help, be prepared for unreliability and unwanted advice. If you can get by and put up with it, then the help will be useful.</p><p></p><p>I really wish my parents were still around for me. But they died years ago. However, even when my mother was alive, I knew what topics to not discuss with her. She was a marvellous support, but nobody's perfect.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 409604, member: 1991"] We've found that family are often the last to "get it". The ones who love you most are often the ones who would rather believe you're nuts, or you're doing it wrong, than believe there is really a problem. They also feel a sense of ownership of you and WILL give advice far more than friends. I had to learn to accept this, just nod and smile. Then do it my way. Over time, exposure to our problems helps them get it. Then when they have problems with their kids and grandkids, they now call me and ask for ideas. Family support is a two-edged sword. You get good and bad together. When you accept help from anybody, they feel it then gives them the right to have a say, and they exercise that right. So when you ask for help, be prepared for unreliability and unwanted advice. If you can get by and put up with it, then the help will be useful. I really wish my parents were still around for me. But they died years ago. However, even when my mother was alive, I knew what topics to not discuss with her. She was a marvellous support, but nobody's perfect. Marg [/QUOTE]
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