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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 86656" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Funny how life gets in the way of our preconceived notions. </p><p>I always planned 2 children only. I didn't plan 5 yrs apart but it was a good way for our particular family. difficult child got all my attention and he needed it. By the time easy child came, difficult child was in K and easy child got my attention during the day. </p><p></p><p>My expectations were that I would never depend on a guy for my money or my happiness. I planned to stay single and happy as opposed to married and miserable. I enjoyed my single days. </p><p>husband snuck in and stole my heart. Marriage turned out to be pleasanter than my wildest expectations. Parenting on the other hand turned into more work than I ever could have dreamed. I always expected to work to make ends meet and provide for my children. </p><p></p><p>I was fairly confident I could handle children and what ever came my way including disabilities. My back ground gave me the experience. The fates laughed at me. I got difficult child who was emotionally and behaviorally so off the charts that I was humbled. I really thought that if you gave children a stable home, love, structure, morals, stimulation, learning, fun that they would just grow up. Never in a million years did I expect child rearing to be so much work. I'm not sure why my children were so needy(different ways but needy) </p><p></p><p>I had low expectations of marriage and high expectations of parenting. Turns out being married was better than expected and much more fulfilling. Parenting was much more work, more challenging and a heck of a stretch. </p><p>I ended up not working much after 2nd son was born and find more satisfaction in a self driven life than I expected. It forced me to be more disciplined and goal oriented. </p><p></p><p>The more years that pass the less inclined I am to think thoughts that maybe I should have passed on children but it was an awful experience in the 9 to 15 age range. I love my boys but it doesn't diminish my dissatisfaction at the experience. </p><p></p><p>Every year I answer this question differently.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 86656, member: 3"] Funny how life gets in the way of our preconceived notions. I always planned 2 children only. I didn't plan 5 yrs apart but it was a good way for our particular family. difficult child got all my attention and he needed it. By the time easy child came, difficult child was in K and easy child got my attention during the day. My expectations were that I would never depend on a guy for my money or my happiness. I planned to stay single and happy as opposed to married and miserable. I enjoyed my single days. husband snuck in and stole my heart. Marriage turned out to be pleasanter than my wildest expectations. Parenting on the other hand turned into more work than I ever could have dreamed. I always expected to work to make ends meet and provide for my children. I was fairly confident I could handle children and what ever came my way including disabilities. My back ground gave me the experience. The fates laughed at me. I got difficult child who was emotionally and behaviorally so off the charts that I was humbled. I really thought that if you gave children a stable home, love, structure, morals, stimulation, learning, fun that they would just grow up. Never in a million years did I expect child rearing to be so much work. I'm not sure why my children were so needy(different ways but needy) I had low expectations of marriage and high expectations of parenting. Turns out being married was better than expected and much more fulfilling. Parenting was much more work, more challenging and a heck of a stretch. I ended up not working much after 2nd son was born and find more satisfaction in a self driven life than I expected. It forced me to be more disciplined and goal oriented. The more years that pass the less inclined I am to think thoughts that maybe I should have passed on children but it was an awful experience in the 9 to 15 age range. I love my boys but it doesn't diminish my dissatisfaction at the experience. Every year I answer this question differently. [/QUOTE]
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