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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 150547" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>THat sounds EXACTLY to the letter how it went with my Buffy at middle school - to- HS time.....</p><p>I agree, I did not think it all so wise for Buffy to be AT the meetings, ours got pretty nasty, ugly, adversarial- BUT in the end it showed Buffy just HOW MUCH I WAS advocating FOR her......it let her SEE I WAS trying so hard, BUT, yup- it really hit her hard, caused her severe anxiety overload and stress incredible to see the school behave so nasty and mean and uncompromiseing. </p><p>Our sd steadfastly refused to do any meeting without her---quite difficult due to Buffys extra extreme panic attacks and generalized anxiety. </p><p></p><p>I can say- for me- for Buffy---the sd demanded Buffy begin HS in mainstream HS....after haveigng been in her tiny self contained class of less than 8 kids-all boys- short school day, their own seperate bus, for a few years- it was a huge set up to fail situation, and fail Buffy did, BIG TIME..how they ever thought she could go from her tiny tiny short day to a full blown change classes every 50 mins giant sized school in one leap is still beyond my belief. ANd when Buffy DID fail-(more accurately, when the school failed her) it was nowhere near as simple as they had implied to put something else in place.....the school just simple did NOT want to accept any responsibility/accountability at all--AND.....the "failure" hit Buffy hard as if it were her own personal failure-----which- in my opinion it was NOT. Pushing her THAT hard into a situation she was nowhere near ready to cope was outright abuse, in my opinion------and it had devastating effects on her. </p><p></p><p>When my son was supposed to move on to middle school from elem, after missing the entire year of last year of elem due to eye injury, surgeries------he was BEFFORE the injury 3 grade levels below his peers work wise----and the eye set him back who knows how much (becuz he could not see for a year, and then was one eyed) - his elem school fought tooth and nail at my recommendation to hold him back in elem one more year-----and elem kept trying to say middle school would transition him per their own plans...except middle school refused to come to IEP meetings, and kept telling me informally, nope, there would be no iep accomodations in place prior to middle school starting........they would "see how he did" I did not give them a chance, as I had already seen how my sd handles transitioning anyone.....middle school warned me they would deny him his IEP ordered alphasmart, extended time on tests and help with oral learning with handwriting as a seperate subject. No more reading tutor......no thanks. just how far did they think my son would get being unable to read or write? In a standard class? and NO transition? And sadly all this had to be discussed in sons presence. UG!</p><p></p><p>Good luck- I do not envy you. been there done that. twice, in spite of takeing sd to court and due process.........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 150547, member: 1697"] THat sounds EXACTLY to the letter how it went with my Buffy at middle school - to- HS time..... I agree, I did not think it all so wise for Buffy to be AT the meetings, ours got pretty nasty, ugly, adversarial- BUT in the end it showed Buffy just HOW MUCH I WAS advocating FOR her......it let her SEE I WAS trying so hard, BUT, yup- it really hit her hard, caused her severe anxiety overload and stress incredible to see the school behave so nasty and mean and uncompromiseing. Our sd steadfastly refused to do any meeting without her---quite difficult due to Buffys extra extreme panic attacks and generalized anxiety. I can say- for me- for Buffy---the sd demanded Buffy begin HS in mainstream HS....after haveigng been in her tiny self contained class of less than 8 kids-all boys- short school day, their own seperate bus, for a few years- it was a huge set up to fail situation, and fail Buffy did, BIG TIME..how they ever thought she could go from her tiny tiny short day to a full blown change classes every 50 mins giant sized school in one leap is still beyond my belief. ANd when Buffy DID fail-(more accurately, when the school failed her) it was nowhere near as simple as they had implied to put something else in place.....the school just simple did NOT want to accept any responsibility/accountability at all--AND.....the "failure" hit Buffy hard as if it were her own personal failure-----which- in my opinion it was NOT. Pushing her THAT hard into a situation she was nowhere near ready to cope was outright abuse, in my opinion------and it had devastating effects on her. When my son was supposed to move on to middle school from elem, after missing the entire year of last year of elem due to eye injury, surgeries------he was BEFFORE the injury 3 grade levels below his peers work wise----and the eye set him back who knows how much (becuz he could not see for a year, and then was one eyed) - his elem school fought tooth and nail at my recommendation to hold him back in elem one more year-----and elem kept trying to say middle school would transition him per their own plans...except middle school refused to come to IEP meetings, and kept telling me informally, nope, there would be no iep accomodations in place prior to middle school starting........they would "see how he did" I did not give them a chance, as I had already seen how my sd handles transitioning anyone.....middle school warned me they would deny him his IEP ordered alphasmart, extended time on tests and help with oral learning with handwriting as a seperate subject. No more reading tutor......no thanks. just how far did they think my son would get being unable to read or write? In a standard class? and NO transition? And sadly all this had to be discussed in sons presence. UG! Good luck- I do not envy you. been there done that. twice, in spite of takeing sd to court and due process......... [/QUOTE]
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